i've been dating my bf for 6 months now. he's cheated on previous gf's in the past. im trying not to judge him, but he gives me reason to: i caught him lying about some phone calls & texts he made to other girls, he flirts a lot, and after he claims he really wants to be with me and will never hurt me, i saw a message he sent to another girl on myspace saying "hey cutie, when are you going to let me tap that" -literally the day before my birthday!!.... this was a couple months ago, and he has changed (deleted girls' #'s and deleted his myspace for me) but i really can't seem to forgive him, or get over it. and i've found that i've become a very jealous person while dating him, only because i want to be cautious- ive had my heart broken in the past, and i really don't want it to happen again. what should i do???
2007-01-16 18:31:06 · 26 answers · asked by Elysse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think since he did delete his myspace account, that shows something. He obviously wants to gain your trust. Also, if he has stopped the calls with other girls thats a good sign. But also, be cautious because some guys learn to be more secretive about things they know they shouldn't be doing. I agree with you, it's hard trusting someone again, after you having your heart broken before. It seems to me though that he is trying to change for you and then you need to learn to change for him too. Let whatever happened in the past go. It will only help you in your future. Just look out for things that would seem like somethings going on behind your back and just think of it this way. This guy might be the one...and by you not trusting him now, might hurt your future together. Good Luck!! :)
2007-01-16 18:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by mommy2be031207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he sounds like a winner. Because I know when I am looking for that special someone...I look for a guy with a myspace account who has cheated on past girlfriends.
This says WAY more about you than it does about him. Why are you willing to accept such a loser as your boyfriend?
2007-01-17 02:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mother of flute player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is pulling the wool over your eyes...do not trust him, get away from him...this is a way of life for him, he will do it til the person gets tired and moves on, then he finds someone else, same old same old..he is a loser...someone that lives like that is a loser in the worst way..I know you will not take the advise, but find someone that will treat you like you want to be treated, if you settle for him, you deserve what you get...good luck
2007-01-17 02:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all know boys will be boys... but when somebody's feeling is already involved and hurting, that is one big mistake to commit. follow your instinct... having a relationship with someone means being with comfortable with your partner...
when you go out and you're uncomfortable because of what is happening, then you really have a bad relationship...
we all know that trust is also essential in a relationship, but if you trust him on what he says, that "he will never do it again..." thing, and then find out that he did, then there is no use giving your trust to him...
but still, you yourself can only decide whether to forgive him or not... it's your move not ours... we're just here to watch...
good luck and God Shpeed! :)
2007-01-17 02:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shpeed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and meet new people. Try to meet 2 to 3 new guys a week and after its all said and done r u still in love with him?
2007-01-17 02:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see sweet, with your broken heart you'll not accept any cheat from anybody, and it's normal to become too jealous, let's take it step by step
1) He cheated a girl before, so its easy for him to cheat another one
2) you caught him with massage, so it was a massage you don't know about any other things, i think my talk is understood.
3) don't believe any guy had many bad relationships
4) cute is word that should to send for you not for any other girl if he really loves you
anyway, think and be smart when you want to love anybody, and don't love him more than yourself.
2007-01-17 02:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the boy is a player, he may think it is innocent but he is not respecting you because you are feeling betrayed, and a loss of trust is almost impossible to recover, , as you said you have become very jealous, and that is not how you want to walk around all the time, I think it is time for you to get it clear in your mind what is or is not acceptable in your life and go from there
2007-01-17 02:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww honey! well what can i say, my first girlfriend EVER broke my heart big time, she cheated on me and it has jaded me quite a bit, right from the beginning. well let me tell you, once a cheater, always a cheater. i found out she's cheated on her last 3 boyfriends. soooo, yah. go careful. i say you should try to emotinally detach yourself little by little, so just in case he does hurt you, it doesn't destroy you. i've had my heart broken before, and it sucks, i hate when it happens to other people.
2007-01-17 02:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. it's simple, if you can not trust him, then what's the use of having a relationship?
Sorry to say but it's your choice, you can date him and be a 'paranoid' girl, or let him go and find some other guy who deserve your love and trust..
Good luck :)
2007-01-17 02:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by curlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhmm,, actually my ex was really a playboy except until we are in a relationship.. at first when he is still courting to me and upto now he claims that he has change bcoz of me but i dont want to give my full trust to him.. it's not that he's a liar or something i just dont want to be fooled and get hurt at the end.. all u have to do is be carefull and try to confront him..
2007-01-17 02:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by _-rei-_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋