I really hate how it works, ya know? I hate how you put effort into something, and while trying not to get too emotionally involved into something that's not yet exclusive, you have to maintain a level of trust with the other person so they don't think you are a flake or someone that is just using them. I mean, if you have fun, but then are "too busy" with shyte to see each other again, why would you agree to go out in the first place?? unless of course it's just a cover up, if so then why play the games? be straight up about it, either didn't have a good time or whatever. too busy is such a copout. i could have to reorganize my socks and that could be "too busy".
just me ranting, obviously having women issues. i'm waiting for this girl to call me ('cause she's busy with school and doesn't know when she's gonna have time). which i totally understand, i've been to school too. but honestly, can't you pick up a phone just to CHAT for 5 minutes and give a guy a hint that you'r into him?
2007-01-16 18:26:19 · 12 answers · asked by holyitsacar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know yourself, if someone wants to make time for you they will, if they don't it is an excuse...I am just telling you the truth. that seems to be so hard to do these days, they think we are all crazy, and can't tell when someone is snowing us.......
2007-01-16 18:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Most women do not know how to say no. We feel like we have to comfort and not let you down but what you really need is the answer so that you can both move on in life. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you but someday you will find a lady that it is actually fun to be with and you don't even need to call her back because she will want to do the same; spend time with you. A lot of women are under pressure because they have to have a carreer now, since inflation is way up and they need to help support financially.
I'm just giving some reasons maybe, so I hope it helps, but it really sounds like the one you keep calling is not worth it since she's too busy to even talk to you.
2007-01-16 18:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never date. Go out with someone as a friend for fun yes but dating is too much pressure. Most people think they need to decide if they are going to stay with them or dump them in five min and they are blind typically or someone you met online. Just be yourself and interact the right person will come along eventually.
2007-01-16 18:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try changing the places you go. The purpose of dating is to get to know each other. If you only go to bars, you'll only learn her drinking habits. If you only go to movies, you learn her tastes in movies. And what do you learn at a dinner? Not much at all. Go places that induce spontaneous talk. Ask her about her hobbies and do something that will introduce you to her hobby, then tell her about one of your hobbies.
My husband goes camping with me, and I go to the drag races with him. It has emotional involvement for both of us. So many people are afraid of scaring the other person off, but if you have something to share, that person won't be scared off.
Don't say, "wanna go somewhere with me?" say instead, "there's an open mike night at the Barnes and Noble".
2007-01-16 18:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL "reorganize my socks". Too funny. You have a sense of humor which is one of the things "quality" women look for in a guy. If she does not call back, move on. Somewhere out there is the perfect one for you and she is waiting. Don't take it personally if she does not call. It is not necessarily you. She may just have poor ideals in what she is searching for.
2007-01-16 18:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea i know what you mean....well first off when someone shows that they are not interested , one feels they need them because one doesn't get the attention.But after she tried to talk to you and you didn't show interest maybe she figured you weren't interested either and that perhaps you wanted something else besides a friendship. But, if everyone waited for dates to come to them....then no one would ever have a date. :)
2007-01-16 18:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by patty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I would always find time for someone I was interested in. Saying that you are too busy is just a nice way to say that you are not very interested in a guy.
Or maybe you are pushing too hard?
2007-01-16 18:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of flute player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurrah for you I agree the games are out of order, plain old fashion talking is good If you can be up front with every one there would be a lot less waiting around for things to happen, keep going , it will work for you, you just need to give your self time.
2007-01-16 18:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too busy means they are not interested in you...would you say to a girl you are interested in that you are too busy...probably not!....just keep your eyes open and wait for the one and only...skip the dating part and go spend some time with a girl you are interested in who feels the same....
2007-01-16 18:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by Olive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a brush off. "im just too busy" its a really cowardly and lame way of saying, "no thanks, i'm not interested". believe me, if someone had a great time with you and would like to ee you again, they would definitely MAKE time, even if they are busy. cause if you meet somebody you really hit it off with, you'll put other stuff in your life on hold to be able to have time to see them again.
2007-01-16 18:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by mickey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋