My boyfriend and I met online and have never met in person yet, we both want to take our time and get to know each other. He used to text me alot during the day and call me as soon as he got home from work. We still talk at least 1-3 hours every night but lately it seems he has been getting more distant. He is not a very good communicator but he has told me that he feels like we are soul mates and he says he loves me all the time. this last weekend at the last minute he told me he was going somewhere with his mom all weekend, his story had little pieces that didnt exactly fit but I didnt want to press because I feel like with him distancing himself I have become a little more clingy and I dont want to scare him off. Am I being paranoid or does it sound like I have something to be concerned about? And if so what can I do to bring it back the way it was?
2007-01-16 18:17:23 · 11 answers · asked by felicia d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you say he is your boyfriend ? You only know each other as Internet friends. Maybe its time for the two of you to meet in person. Sounds like you should set up a date to get together in a group with some of both of your friends together. Never meet a Internet friend alone by yourself, it could be very dangerous if this person is lying to you and is a bad person. I'm not saying that this Internet friend is a liar or a bad person. However you never know until you see the real person.
2007-01-16 18:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by LadyRazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't take this the wrong way, because I don't want to coem across wrong, but this person sounds like an absolute (sorry, I can't find any other word) loser.
Your best course of action is not to worry about it. I've had feelings for people I never met I R L but I realize based on people I have met, that there is as much emotional distance between "never met in real life" and "end of the first date" as there is between "first date" and "sharing an apartment"
Ignore it. Don't get offended if he IS dating outside of the "relationship" because for now, you're just a voice on the line.
2007-01-16 18:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you are taking your time to get to know each other, but even so, be careful. But it seems like you have that safety thing down- your feelings just seem confused. Just continue talking to him and don't worry about it too much. If it is meant to be, he will come back to you. Text messages and online chats hide so many things- he could be going through a rough time. Give him some time to blow it out and just be a friend. But remember to stay cautious- you never know. Good luck!
2007-01-16 18:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by snowthump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to tell you. I have never understood how you can fall in love with someone without meeting them in person. Thats just me though. One of my good friends is b/f and g/f with some guy online, and it seems like he's always sending her mixed messages or always coming up with excuses of why haven't they met yet. I see it as just a game for them though. But thats really up to you, if you think this person is worth it. Good luck!
2007-01-16 18:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by mommy2be031207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 13:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your time and see what comes next.. if he do that again and it begins to annoy you.. maybe you can just be honest with him and try to get his explanation.. In relationship, it takes two to make it happen.. so if you're feeling left out then you should try to ask him where this 'relationship thing' is going..
Good luck and Cheers :)
2007-01-16 18:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by curlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand strong Dont let fear overtake you. If you believe this is a person for you then believe him until he proves you wrong.
Choose to trust
2007-01-16 18:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only talk for so long. See if he wants to meet.
2007-01-16 18:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be too demanding,every relation needs space.Dont be too concerned,and he will be fine.
2007-01-16 18:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS like he is getting boarded with you.
2007-01-16 18:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋