is it possible to lose interest in girls altogether?

Question

i chased my best friend who i had a crush on for years, 9 to be exact, i told her how i felt about her like 4 times throughout. unfortunately, she didn't feel the same way. rejection has always been a close friend of mine. i really believed i could show her eventually that no other guy alive could love and care for her the way i could. but for some reason, she wanted the guys who end up in prison or america's most wanted list, they didn't care about her, they just wanted sex. well anyway, i just called off the friendship about 2 weeks ago and it was one of the hardest things i've ever had to do. now i feel like crap all the time. she broke my already unstable and fragile heart. so i just wanted to know if it was possible to lose interest in girls altogether? i mean, i'm not gay, or even bi, but just altogether give up on looking for that special someone?

Answer 1

i think you'll regret it if you give up on girls altogether just because you feel you got your heart broken. would it have made it any easier if you had told her within a year of having these feelings for her? it probably would cos then you would not have had to wait this long to finally tell her your feelings. not all girls are the same. not all girls are looking for the mucho type/bad type of a a guy. she's got an edge to her and she's obviously looking for someone that's gonna give her a challenge. you deserve better than that. in a way, you are kinda being biased in the way that you think that if one girl is like that, then all of the girls are like that, when you know that's not true. i dont think you should have broken up your friendship with her because when the time comes where she gets hurt, she's gonna need someone to be there for her, and although you have all this anger and resentment towards her, if you really do love her, you would continue to be there for that support. and dont let her know you still have feelings for her cos that would make things worse. take an interest in other girls and dont let your mind play tricks on you. i would say that the reason you feel like crap is because you know that you still want to be friends with her and should have remained friends with her, but your mind tells you that you're angry at her and have an unstable heart, which is not true. you're just really hurt by what she said and your upset. dont let this situation get the better of you. be a stronger man. you owe it to yourself.

Answer 2

You just need time to heal. You stuck around her way too long. Let it be a lesson if a girl says she isnt interested you need to just move on. Dont waste your life waiting.
I think eventually you will develop an interest again its just right now you invested so much in this one girl that you feel depleted. Give it a year or so and do NOT contact her again or this will drag out for the rest of your life and you WILL end up alone.
FInd other things to do. Develop an interest, take a class in it. Go hiking with a group of people. Be around people in groups. There are also support groups that can help you deal with these things. You can get thru this as long as you keep your distance and focus on something else.

And when you do pursue women again stay away from the ones who are self destructive like her.

Answer 3

Of course it's possible. You feel rejected and hurt by someone you care about. That will obviously make you wary of people in general and that's natural. Just don't hold onto that anger and hurt forever. Don't punish everyone because you've been hurt. We ALL have. Rejection is a part of life. We're all rejected at some point so don't feel like you're alone there. This girl will wake up one day and I can bet money that she'll regret passing you up. I know this probably sucks and you don't want to hear it but, you'll get over this. You'll meet someone who wants you for you and you'll look back on this time and wonder why you waited so long for this other girl.

Answer 4

You're heartbroken so you may just need some time away from women. After your heart heals a little and the loneliness kicks in you will be back skirt chasing. Women do the same thing when they go through a tough time with a guy. I don't know how many times I have said that I was done with the male species and months later found myself involved with someone else.

Answer 5

Hey there---slow down a bit---you are having a serious reaction to the problem you described. You need to rethink your approach and how you deal with any woman. You can't prove anything and you can't demand that they see you for anything more than what you are. Be cool, say hi, let nature take it's course. Let it happen and then be yourself. Girls who just want the low class guys don't want to be saved--they know exactly what they want--and it looks as if they get it. Why would you want anything to do with them? Set your sights high and stick to being who you are. You have got to keep trying---it's the oldest game around. When you land an interested girl, concentrate on doing things you both enjoy, be cool, be respectful, don't try to prove anything---just go with it. Now get out of that rut and get moving. Dress nice and pay attention to your appearance......get that nice girl and have some fun.

Answer 6

Of course. It doesn't mean that you don't want a woman, it's just that she buried your heart and you have to find it again.

As for her, many men have gone through what you have. Woman usually want either the rich man or a real bad guy that they think will change for them.

Just take some time and be with your friends and family. During this time, think about who you really are, and what you really want in a woman. What are your interests? Think very hard about that question. Find a good woman with those interests. If you do, you will find a woman who can relate to you and enjoy who you are.

Answer 7

When a women says she "likes you only as a friend" what she is really saying is you're everything I want in a man,I just won't **** you.Here's some advice.Next time you like a girl,ignore her.Women need attention.Even if she hated your guts, if you ignore her she would go crazy trying to figure out why you don't pay attention to her.Trust me I was the nicest guy you could meet.I didn't start getting laid until I started acting like a jerk.

Answer 8

I don't think so, it's innate for a person to have interest for the opposite sex. But it would be better to lower one's gaze while talking them. This will lower your interest for a while. I would also say not to worry. Ask your friends, or fam (it may be a little wierd) but try. and you should get to know that person before getting serious.

Answer 9

No, don't give up on women. Women find confidence sexy. You seem to lack it. Go take up a sweet path for education
(become something great) or start exercising like a madman. Start loving yourself and women will flock to you.

Answer 10

Listen pal, I'm 50 years old, divorced twice& I will tell you straight up--- You won't find another when your looking, only when you find yourself will that soul mate appear. Now for the best advice, you won't listen but, ---for most women ,the shitter you treat em, the more they will love you, odd huh! Ok, now when you get married she will use sex to control you & what you do, & usually tou'll get cut off anyway soooo, treat em like ****, keep em guessin, & DO NOT GET MARRIED!!