I am a 36 yrold male still single. I have to say that I have a problem that I cant figure out how to fix. I started having a affair with a married woman a few months ago. It was all fun and games when we first started out. She called me all the time, I called her all the time, we saw each other often. She use to tell me when we first stated that she did not care what her husband thought. She was just ready to get out of the marriage that she was in. We were intimate quite a bit at first, we cold not stay away from each other. Until recently she started acting really strange. The phon calls started to come maybe once a week, now there are no calls at all. The only time she has anything to do with me, is when she is at work, and I go by and see her. She has promised me on many occassions, days that we are suppose to be alone together,but she never shows up anymre. I questioned her about it, and she said that things are getting complicated for her, she feels confused. She says that he is
2007-01-16 17:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by cougar b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would leave her alone....Move on...
2007-01-16 18:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You left me hanging. You said that she is.........
Are you really surprised? You are seeing a married woman. She may have changed her mind about wanting to have an affair. Maybe she decided to give her marriage another chance. Honestly, she sounds like a very confused person. Maybe she was just looking for a fling and thought you were getting too serious. I don't know what motivates her. Stay clear of married women unless you're looking for trouble. You deserve better!
2007-01-17 02:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never finished what you were saying but it seems pretty clear to me. The affair is over. Either she loves her husband and just wanted a fling out of boredom and now she feels guilty or maybe she has found another guy to service her. At any rate, you should try to forget her. I'm sorry but this is the chance we take when we get involved with married people.
2007-01-17 02:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just being careful. Since it's an illicit affair, she has to make sure that the "coast is clear". Maybe, things have really gotten complicated and that she can only see you when it is safe.
Trust her discretion. If you really like her, always give her the benefit of the doubt, give her some space. She'll know when to call/see you and when not. Maybe, she's just buying time. :-)
Meanwhile, keep yourself busy. For all we know, she'll be calling you in the nick of time. hope you'll find the closure you desire.
think positive. good luck!
2007-01-17 02:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by botanreyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone that's available. If she leaves her husband, it needs to be because she can't work things out with him, not because she found something better. If she him him for you, the first time things get rough between you, she'll start looking again. She needs you to let go because it will make her a stronger person to get this solved or ended on her own.
2007-01-17 02:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just got used to having you around her all the time, and it started to bore her. Or her Husband started paying attention to her some more and he's being more intimate with her, and now she cant decide who she wants more. You should sit and wait, call her every once and while and let things cool off for awhile.
2007-01-17 02:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by vegeta_4121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, you actually trust anything that this woman says?
If she will lie to the man she is married to, why would she be honest with you? Why don't you go by her home when her husband is there...since she doesn't care what he thinks.
She isn't calling you because she used you, and now she is done.
2007-01-17 02:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of flute player 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok let me tell u!!!! SHE MAY DO THIS 4 THE RUSH AND EXCITEMENT SHE MAY BE A SEX ADDICT OR JUST LIKES THE THRILL OF A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND SORRY BUT U R NOW OLD NEWS!!! SHE HAS A NEW BOY TOY !! thats a lose woman 4 u, never mess with a married woman if she will cheat on him she will cheat on u!!! move on to a suitable woman!!! im 21 and i know this ha haha
2007-01-17 02:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by SEXY CRML 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about her...she's married and is an idiot and so are you for having a relationship with a married women who is obviously getting ****** by her husband then going back to you. She doesn't call because she's married and does not wanna leave are loose her husband. Let it go and date single women.
2007-01-17 02:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by u2ugly2nv18 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The affair is over. Either she fixed things with her husband or she found someone else.
2007-01-17 02:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her alone.....she is still married and probably is fearing divorce now.....probably wasnt getting any action at home so sought it out else where.....
its not worth it dude
2007-01-17 02:01:11 · answer #11 · answered by I am stoopid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋