why white women wont date men from China?

Question

I have noticed many white men dating chinese women. my cousin Jenny Parker married a German guy. they have two girls that look white. I'm afraid to tell white girls my name even when they flirt with me. some people think I look japanese and say words I dont understand. I'm from China but came to california 2 years of age.

Answer 1

From China itself? No thanks......smelly/dirty, their manners are disgusting and everything about their upbringing sucks. But personally, I like Chinese men, espacially if they are mixed blooded (as long they are not brought up in the Republic of China). I think they are cute! I'm not too concern about size, some do have small ones but it's hard enough.....unlike some American men, big but soft.....they are perfectly fine.....So don't worry...not all white women dislike dating them. I think some women associates ALL Chinese to the PRC's nationals, it just a misconception.....

Answer 2

Even though you came to California at 2 years of age, you grew up in a family of immigrants who probably spoke Chinese at home and maintained many of their cultural traditions and ways of thinking and behaving.

And perhaps your behavior now is not quite like that of other Americans.

If you were a woman, then your cultural differences wouldn't matter as much because in most cases all a woman has to do is be passive and let the guy do all the relationship work to make friends with her.

But being a man, your cultural differences matter more because you are the one who has to run after mostly passive women and try to impress them. And if your way of imressing women is not the way they understand and expect, then may be this is the reason why you have so little success with white women.

But instead of looking at your cultural background as a handicap or a disadvantage in finding a girlfriend, I suggest that you look at it some more and see the huge advantage you have over many other men.

With your american citizenship, you are a very, very eligible bachelor in China and in some other asian countries. And if you go travelling there with the purpose of meeting an attractive lady for friendship and possible marriage, then very likely you will come back with such an asian beauty that many white american men would envy your good fortune and luck.

Answer 3

Pardon my reply to be blunt but to my experience (Im an educator and have to work with chinese students daily & have been doing this for many years), One reason I think is that I may be due to hygiene. Personal hygiene is very poor. Another reason is probably mentality. And lastly mannerism. If you said that you have come to the U.S since you were 2, then your upbringing will be completely different....unlike the typical Chinese. You would be having a more Americanized behaviour....so what I have to say does not concern you.....ok? I have worked in China (Universities) and I found that the things I've mention above, the findings are appaIling! Most of them don't even brush their teeth or shower in the morning. They don't even flush the toilets after use! (just imagine if they really wash their private parts?) Would you find that behaviour attractive? Mentality - Money minded but lazy.....they want to make money but doesn't want to make the effort ....(unlike the olden days where they were wise scholars and inventors). I'm not being discriminative but I found that many of them who comes to school wish not to work hard on their studies. They hardly attend classes or do their work. They expect the lecturers to give them the exam answers as well! Geez...they even pay other people to do thier assigments! I found that this is very common in China as well. Many graduates are not really qualified. What I also found was that it was difficult working with them. They are not able to think out of the box! Give them something that concerns logic, they are not able to apply unless it is read or memorised word by word from a book. It's the way they have been educated in their own country....that's how they do it. Concerning work again, their pace is really slow.......and they hardly want to use initiative. Oh and lunch time is more important than eg. finishing their task that is needed urgently.......Basically lazy........ Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying all but majority. As for mannerism....I think you should discover for yourself.......I shall not mention. So basically, all these factors contributes to a turn off. Well that's my opinion anyway....... perhaps other people will think them differently......but I do have friends who dated Chinese women/man a found that the experience was a nightmare.....they claimed that they were also money minded and were VERY expensive to maintain and unfaithful as well.......

Answer 4

Problems sometimes arise with asian families. Unfortunately there's still prejudice in this world, and alot of the older asian generation find it hard to let go. It's a possibility that her parents refuse to let her date outside her culture or have an issue with certain races. It's possible she might not find you attractive also, who knows? Most asian women are fairly small and it could be a size issue too if you know what I mean. Since I don't know the entire situation I'm just giving a few reasons I could think of off the top of my head. There's lots of other asian girls out there. Try another and good luck.

Answer 5

Dude , I couldn't tell a Chinese guy from a Japanese guy if you both bit me on the a** maybe your just not what woman are looking for white , black , Mexican jealousy is never good .

Answer 6

why be shy? if you embrace who you are thats hot. and confidence goes a loooooooooooooong long long way. what kind of girl are you looking for? be that kind of guy. this does not mean change who you are, thats the last thing you should do, but pick up on what she likes, how she dresses etc. and be the guy equivalent. my theory is that if a guy or girl likes a certain type of guy or girl they want to be the same type, ya know? good luck, you sound like a nice guy.

Answer 7

Oh--I think it is all in your head!!! I've seen many white women with men from China and they're very happy.

Answer 8

Its probably the height and the language issue..and the culture different somwhow
but you shouldnt feel shy...its all dawn on everyones individual and preference.
boost up ur self confidence:)
all the best

Answer 9

not true. my ex-wife is german. my girlfriend is irish and I have dated british, french and itlian women. BUT, i live in the midwest and alot of races mix here.

Answer 10

Maybe its the racism and sexism thats a turn off.

Low self esteem is unattractive...