How do I tell you that I have herpes?
2007-01-16 17:45:43 · 18 answers · asked by Just Chillin' 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to know before we get physical. And you should have ur facts straight, I'm sure I'll ask a whole of questions.
2007-01-16 17:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Shay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a dating relationship has been established -- you're talking on the phone, have been on a couple of dates, etc. Usualy by the third date you can pretty much have a good assumption that the dating realtionship is going to be serious enough that this is going to have to be disclosed. It gives the other person enough time to get to know who you are and that you are not you're disease. They will know enough about you to make a sound decision whether or not a sexual relationship is going to be an issue. I wouldn't wait any longer than this, because the longer you wait, the harder it will be to disclose and the other person might feel that you have purposely decieved them by withholding the information. But....DEFINITELY BEFORE you EVER have sex with anybody!
2007-01-16 18:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you have sex.
You need to discuss this before you pass it on - it's the right thing to do. If you wait until after you already had sex, you are playing a game - serving your own physical needs at the expense of jeopardizing your partner. (At that point, you should not be surprised if you have an extremely angry partner.)
You need to have the facts with you - how you got it, the course of treatment you are taking (drugs, etc.), how often you have symptoms, when you had your last outbreak, the fact that the virus can be shed even though you don't have symptoms, etc. You need to be 100% honest.
Your MD should be able to get you some written information you could use to start the discussion. Or find something on WebMD or similar.
2007-01-16 18:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tom-SJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person as soon as sex is an option. Maybe bring up a conversation about regrets and share that you regret that herpes is going to be an issue in your relationships.
2007-01-16 18:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lyf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever the relationship becomes more serious. You don't want to make bad publicity about yourself before you need to.
2007-01-16 17:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Walli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him soon. Before sex would be ideal, but if he starts developing feelings for you then he needs to know right away.
2007-01-16 17:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you bang like a screen door in a hurricane!
2007-01-16 17:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
immediatley, being honest may get you a second date, if you don't tell that is basically lying to someone.
2007-01-16 17:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by raspberryflavr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. . .um. . .you kind of told me I had herpes so mission accomplishment, btw telling your boyfriend (or girlfriend) will be tough, but let it out and if he or she really loves you then he or she will not leave
2007-01-16 17:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should have come up on the first date.
2007-01-16 17:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋