Have you ever met someone that in moments of being with them everything seemed so right? Your day couldn't possibly suck if they were with you and you end up in a relationship, long term, and come to find out everything you had with this person was a lie to manipulate your heart? He played on my symphathy and loyalty and sense of desire to be with the "one" and he made up cancer as a ploy to keep me. He really was abusive to his ex's and they all warned me. I didn't believe it until those words no man should ever call his girlfriend that he intended on marrying in front of her children for that matter. The verbal abuse was insane at the end. Come to find out he has all these standby women on the side that he's messed with through our whole relationship. I'm so disgusted with him it actually feels more like hate. I really want to throw up when I think about him. Has anyone ever felt this way and if so how long til the disgust goes away? do you ever find someone new to trust?
2007-01-16 17:45:18 · 17 answers · asked by Baby girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good thing you found out now, instead of later.
Make sure you talk it out with friends so you can release the feelings. The hate came because you found the love you had for him was all in vein...he was using you.
You will love again, but this time it will be more clearheaded and not fall head over heels so soon. It will take awhile...just let the healing run it's course. It'll happen...you deserve it!
2007-01-16 17:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by FrazzledMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OHMYGOD! That is a sorry excuse for a human being. I have loved and lost but not to that extent. Truth be told i have learned with time that once the ugly goes away, something better comes along. You will see. Right now the only think would be to distrust and someone will come along who is worth and and make you forget about all that. You will even be grateful to the jerk for leaving you, just so you could have someone to love you and respect you like you deserve. For now, all i can say is take it one day at a time. DO NOT give him any more space in your life (dont even mention his name), let your hair down, buy some fabulous jeans, put some lipstick and move on. You are defenitely better off. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-16 17:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by nyenelra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah my secound girl friend. this pretty little goth, wow she had a nice body...any how after i graduated high school (bearly) she talked me in to going to jail (a job corp center not actually jail) and i spent 5 months there all for her. i went there to get trainning in construction so we could live together when i got out. well we talked when i got home for christmas break and i some how pissed her off (still not sure how i did it) and from that night on she talked to me less and less. i was heartbroken so badly that i snaped at the end of january 06' and out of frustration i got in a fight with another student at that job corp center. i was sent home and the day i arrived i set out to find her. she was not home, i called her cell and it said the number was no longer in use. i sent her an email which she returned a week later. i was happy asked where she was and she never said. over the next 2 months the emails got less and less and i never got her new address or phone number and her friends would not help me. it was like she poofed out of thin air. from april 06' to july i became very pissed and suacidal. that lasted till about october actually when i started going to a psychatriest and all though that helped, it is not the thing that has gotten me to go to college, i started college because of the occult, and yes the occult is what has made me got over the anger and hatred i felt. i still dislike goths thanks to her but i dont hate them.
2007-01-16 18:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetheart the hate never completely goes away, but it does fade to pity once you find the guy that will love you for you, and he will treat you like gold , and of course he's got a body like Adonis. Move on my Mom always told me there are plenty of fish in the sea. It hurts for awhile but it gets better and when your not even looking the best guy will just pop out of the woodwork. Cause thats the way love works.
2007-01-16 17:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Katprsn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've had a bad one like that. But worse than what he did to you. It all depends on your personality as to how long it takes to get over it.
How else can you acquire wisdom but through the experience of your enemies whom you survive?
If you are EMO or what I call a drama queen, then it will last the rest of your life like a skipping CD player.
If you have a great sense of humor and feel confident in your ability to be preoccupied with the things that fill your soul, you will recover rather swiftly.
2007-01-16 17:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the fact that he's a disgusting man running on your head every now and then. The disgusted feeling will eventually die off as time goes by. And finding someone new to trust will also happen gradually.
2007-01-16 17:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget him,the sooner the better.He sounds like a nightmare.Take your time and don't rush into another relationship.Ask yourself what you want for yourself.He seems like a schemer so steer clear away from him.He's also abusive and a player,not a good catch.You're better off without him.He degraded you and you didn't deserve that.Shake it off and keep going he'll find someone else to who will put up with his BS.Take care. You deserve better.
2007-01-16 18:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you found such a jerk.
I have been burned by numerous guys in the past and to some extent I feel more like I am still being used by my husband for the bread winner, thankfully he has started working again.
As for the trust issue......I don't trust anyone. I am a firm believer in show me, or prove it to me. Actions speak louder than words.
2007-01-16 17:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your questions - yes, yes and yes. I fell madly in love with my husband. He was my hero, or so I thought. And yes, it has turned almost to hate. He has cheated on me and is verbally abusive. And yes, I have found someone new to love and trust. As to how long it takes for the disgust to go away - who knows? Maybe never.
2007-01-16 17:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a couple of thoughts. They say the root of hatred is fear, so what is that you are afraid of?
They also say if you take the length of the relationship and divide it by 2, that's how long it will take to get over the person.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-16 17:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by BLT 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋