we have been together for a while now and we have sex probably every second day...sometimes everyday...anyway he has gotten me off before but now its like really hard for him to do that...and sometimes he just gets so frustrated that he cant..i dont know what the problem is i can do it myself in like 2 mins lol...guys give me some pointers here how he can make me feel good.
2007-01-16 17:30:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try different positions, maybe at least one where he's not facing you...hint,hint! It might help relieve some of the pressure he's feeling about the whole mess.
Another option would be more foreplay before sex, especially with him going down on you. If the pace is too fast, slow it down a bit. Whisper things to each other. Give him looks he hasn't seen before (pulling at your lip with your finger, satisfying grin, you get the idea!).
The point is that a lot of it is mental. By trying some of those suggestions, you are focusing more on one thing at a time taking it in steps, instead of rushing into one big motion of getting off. When both of you feel like time is on your side, then the frustration is less likely to set in.
Since you have no problem with 2 minutes on your own, spend half the time getting yourself close before you let him take over.
2007-01-16 17:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the problems you are having from the c-section you should go back to the doctor based on that because it could affect you seriously later down the road.. If the baby is still just few months it could be that your womb has not yet closed back up properly and that could be why you don't feel him inside you. It could be that your mind is heavy and you have not forgiven him for hurting you and you have some level of resentment towards him and you are not as attracted to him as you once were. You need to discuss how you feel and try and bring back some of the trust on both sides so that he would stay so long to get it up and you would not be so numb. Your mental state of mind during sex has a lot to do with the performance. you should trust what he says about why he takes so long to get it up it is typical in most men. they love to poke there stuff around and can't stand when another man has fun with their lady, weather it's true or not just the idea get's them angry and they feel betrayed. i can't explain it properly but when i do i would holla at you. be blessed and not stressed. Good luck and go see that doctor and let them know you are still having complications.
2016-03-29 01:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really upsetting that you cannot reach orgasm through sex? As you say, he is now trying too hard and you are watching to see if it works. Better to just enjoy it and sex cannot get you off show him how to get you off manually or orally.
For a man who cares about you it feels terrible if he cannot give you what you want. This just puts more pressure on him.
2007-01-16 18:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 options here:
Get a new man
OR
Teach him what you like.
Sex isnt always about penetration. Maybe you need a bit more romance, more foreplay or more excitement. Try to spice thing up by adding sexy clothes, shoes, toys, food or whatever. Get his engine running.
Let him learn how to oral please you, and make that a prelude to other actions. Once he gets a good handle on that, teach him how to do other things....
eventually he will learn. What helps too is to actually focus on the man... and the act itself... empty your mind and focus on the feeling...
2007-01-16 17:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can strange guys give u pointers on how ur b/f can please u. You and only u know the answers to that. Tell or show ur b/f exactly what u like or don`t like. Whatever it is that u can do in 2 mins. to please urself, u need to show him how it`s done. He cares enough to want to please u, so communicate ur wants to him, he`s not a mind reader. If its toys, vibrator, whatever, share that with him and hopefully he`ll be pleased too.
2007-01-16 17:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a subscription to MAXIM magazine. My husband has learned numerous things from that magazine and I am thankful for them. I used that have that problem with alot of men before I found one who was interested in making me happy in all ways.
2007-01-16 17:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have him do more foreplay so your all hot and bothered when you start. plus make sure that you have him doing EVERYTHING that you want him to do when your having sex. and i know that for me when i cant quite get my girl off. i just play a lil rough and that usually pushs her over the edge.
2007-01-16 17:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by FireGuy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to mastrubate in front of him to show him what pleasures you. You also need to give hime more guidance as to what works and what doesn't. Maybe he is try to hard.
2007-01-16 17:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by feeras1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try riding him, that's one of the only ways I get off. Just straddle him and move back and forth.
Also try having him rub his penis over your vagina like on your lips and stuff before inserting it.
Try having him vibrate his tounge over your vagina, always works!
2007-01-16 17:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by beth3988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off don't have sex as often
then try different positions
and enjoy[sexshouldn't be stressful]!
2007-01-16 17:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋