My son loves to wear the big boy underwear we bought him. But he uses them just like a diaper. Pee in them...change them.. He hates the potty big and small. When he has a pull up on and he is wet or dirty he goes to his room, changes the diaper, and the pants all on his own. He shows alot of interest, but it does not go any farther than that. What should I do?
2007-01-16 17:25:16 · 8 answers · asked by JOLI 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
just ride it out for a while and encourage intrest and reward postive behavior - but do NOT force him and do NOT punish him.
Boys often train slower and older than girls so it is not a concern that he is 3 - just a pain for you.
I would take away the "big boy" underwear and make him "earn" them by using the potty.
If you want to make it fun, put fruit loops in the potty and let him have target practice. It may make it more fun for him.
2007-01-16 17:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried rewarding him with a stamp system? At three years old, he is old enough to understand the concept. Make a really cool chart and put it on the fridge. When he is a good boy and he uses the potty to go pee pee, give him a stamp. When he uses the potty to go poo poo, give him a different stamp. Once he gets a certain number of pee pee stamps, give him a treat, like a special piece of chocolate or something that he doesn't get any other time. Make sure you hide the chocolate so that he can't get into it. When he gets a certain number of poo poo stamps, give him a different treat. Tell him that once he goes a whole month without peeing in his underwear, you'll buy him a toy car or something. This will motivate him to use the potty. Whatever you do, do not discipline him by taking away his stamps. Just tell him, firmly, that big boys go pee pee in the potty, and tell him that if he doesn't want to use the potty, then you'll make him wear baby diapers again, and he won't get any special potty stamps. Then send him to the room. At this age, he probably won't understand having the stamps taken away, especially since he worked so hard for them, and it could be traumatic. The stamp system has to be something positive, separate from punishment, or else he might grow to resent it.
You can also use the chart to help him learn how to count. Try rewarding him after 10 stamps, and count it out with him.
Have you heard of the potty book and/or potty movie? Those helped my brother learn. He was pretty stubborn.
2007-01-16 17:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never heard of a child being traumatized (not saying it isn't possible) by potty training, I am assuming that this is your first child. He recognizes that he is dirty, so remove the option of his going to his room to get "clean". My oldest at 4 learned to stop messing when he had an accident and I had no clean real underwear. He will learn to use the toilet, just don't force it on him. I really don't see the big deal about rewarding a natural body function.
2007-01-16 17:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by J W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like his brain might be willing but his bladder isn't. He may not be able to tell yet when he has to go. Put him back in diapers for a few weeks and don't rush it. When he does better about going to the bathroom try to remind him more often. because kids get busy playing and forget to go potty. You can also buy his favorite character underwear and tell him not to wet on them because they wont like it.That little trick worked for a lot of us in my family and circle of friends.Superman won't like you peeing on him. Good Luck
2007-01-16 17:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is also that she's marking the condo as her possess, be certain that you just scrub best to backside to get the entire pee odor out, and at any time when you notice her peeing, inform her no and placed her external so she will be able to conclude available in the market. Never permit her see you blank up the mess, she's going to believe it is a recreation! while you placed her external, deliver her water however no meals, in case you depart her available in the market for greater than half-hour. And she can also be becoming bored, get somethings to make her transfer round plenty like mabey get a ball that she will be able to throw round, chunk on, and kick it. If you'll be able to when you feed her placed her out again with a few water and a couple of toys, in order that approach she's going to cross external and no longer in.
2016-09-07 23:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just got to find something that will motivate him. I struggled with my daughter for months, but until I found princess sippy-cups, she did the same thing your son does! Does he have a role model? Does he have a DVD? My daughter didn't believe me, but she believed Elmo! Maybe if you backed off for a while, then casually re-introduced the underwear, he would be more agreeable? Good luck!
2007-01-16 17:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strum a guitar and sing him this song:
A toilet is not scary
A toilet is okay
It won't bite you and it won't hurt you and
It won't take you away
Just kidding. Offer little rewards for every time he uses the potty and/or finishes a day with clean big boy underwear.
2007-01-16 17:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about just wait untill he will discover it all by himself. It still might take weeks or monts but he will.
Mine did.
2007-01-17 20:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by qest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋