I started dating this guy last summer and we dated exclusively for about 4 months until it started trickling into dating casually and then not at all. I see him all the time because I work with him. Yeah I know. Never date a co worker. But it's too late for that. Anyway this year I felt he and I were starting to gain back something we had before. Last night I spoke to him about it and he said he doesn't feel we should date again cuz we don't "mesh" well together. He likes me though and wants to remain friends. The dreaded words! The sad thing is, I think I fell in love with him and now I am so heartbroken. I don't know what to do! I am just so incredibly saddened by all of this. Help please!!! :(
2007-01-16 17:20:52 · 7 answers · asked by L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You obviously need something else other than him to fill your time and life.
You might just have nothing else to focus on.
Find a new hobby, volunteer your time, do things to distract you from thinking about him.
The funny thing is that when he sees you happy, without him, busy and giving to others, he'll probably want you back.
Just for future reference, it might be wise not to "fall in love" within 4 months... Honestly, it takes about a year to truly know someone and know if they are someone worthy of your respect.
2007-01-16 17:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps you're subconciously rebounding from the recent dating routine you were living. It seems like the strongest part of your feelings came out after he told you that you two didn't "mesh" well together. If the feelings you had were genuine, then it most likely wouldn't have taken this long to feel that way.
Yeah, dating a co-worker isn't the greatest of moves, but dating one that you see every day is even worse. Hope for the best...things can only get better right?
2007-01-17 01:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by SirCharles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh, I know exactlly how u feel. I wish that we could trade e-mails. I am going through exactly the same situation. I've been seeing a guy for 1 yr. but now I feel like he's had a change of heart for me but I don't know for sure and I feel hurt cause I love him. My advice to you is that if u could see him as just a friend then that's fine but if u think u can't and u get sad, depressed and heartbroken all over again everytime u see him than I suggest that u change jobs because it will only make it harder for u to get over him if u have to see him everyday. I also suggest that u focus on yourself. Do stuff that you've been wanting to do, cry to just let the hurt out, talk to friends, and know that other guys exist out there and that one of them is going to want to be more than friends with you. Hope my advice helps because I am going through the same situation
2007-01-17 01:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by bettygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he was the one who said you two shouldn't date, I wouldn't try and hold on. I mean, you can't make someone love you. I wish we could but thats not the way it works. I am sorry you fell in love with him and now have to let it go....thats just his loss. But maybe he'll see being without you, isn't what he wants..and he'll come running back :)
2007-01-17 01:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by mommy2be031207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need someone who is in total love with you, not someone who coudnt give a crap about how you feel, if it was love he would try to compromise, please try to take some time alone and asssess whats really important, and if you find you really love him you will see whata jerk he is being and realize you deserve way better than this, hey... i feelll in love witha complete ***hole, and i am getting over it because i know i deserve better... my head knows better than my heart
2007-01-17 01:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say try putting this pain you are filling into an old habit you love. Like, if you like to draw and haven't in awhile. Put your pain somewhere else. Don't just sit around because that's when it hurts the most.
2007-01-17 01:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by bridgetrocks86 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People use Alcohol,drugs and Guns to deal with these issues. Pick one...two.....three.
2007-01-17 01:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋