I've been with her for almost 3 years and put it in this way, we are very sexually active in the past and we enjoyed it alot. But gradually, it got lesser. Until recently, she felt that i treated her just like a tool to satisfy my sexual desires and she always against sex even though we hadn't done it for a month. She told me she can live without sex for a long time. BUT I CAN'T! She claims that i'm a great bf and i should respect her for what she wants. But she wants a sex-free love life. What should i do now??
2007-01-16 17:10:49 · 18 answers · asked by twpin82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you ever thought that maybe you aren't satisfying her like she wants?
Talk with her some more about the subject, and see if you can find the real reason why shes acting this way.
Maybe she had a pregnant scare or maybe she is getting tired of the "old" routine. Maybe she is stressed about something, and can relax enough to enjoy it anymore.
I have felt like that before and cut my husband off and told him almost the same thing she told you. He hated it, but I had to get some things off my chest before we could continue the way they were. He completely understood and when we finally did have sex, it was one of the best sessions we had together in a while.
2007-01-16 17:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to show her that you really love her. Sex is easy, but she is wanting the whole package if you know what I mean. If a woman feels like she is a sex toy....expect her to shy away from sex. A little romance goes a long way. Tell her you love her and show her. There are so many things you can do. Plan a romantic dinner, massage her, spend more quality time with her and she just might change her mind. I know she more than likely loves you...but she needs to feel and see it in other ways. And if you really what to be with her you will have to just do things different. It may take time, but it will be worth it. Good luck!
2007-01-17 01:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you are, I would give this advise.
If you are under 18--go with abstinence.
If you are over 21--There is a book called "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" (Men's Edition) by Gary Chapman
Read the book, find her love language and speak it to her often--she will come around.
2007-01-17 01:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by spacebuff2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might indirectly be telling you that the Free stuff is over
she may have decided you should be married that is usually
whats wrong with them when they act like that . Bring up
marriage just to see if that changes things.If it doest
you have major problems, You cut down more and more
the times you see her .Then take it from there go or stay.
2007-01-17 01:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes testing you........I f you really truly loved her you would get through this with her without cheating or leaving her.The first thing a guy does when theres lack of sex in a relationship is cheat.She wants to see if youre true to her and if youre not just with her for sex.Believe me i played this game w/ an ex.Notice i said EX............he failed the test.
2007-01-17 01:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't love you anymore. She's still with you because she hasn't found someone better yet.
You noticed that the sex was gradually becoming less frequent, but did you do anything about it? Nope, not til it was too late. Kick her to the curb, or just move along yourself.
2007-01-17 07:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal that you guys are into sex.. and it's also normal that your gf wanted to lay-off sex for awhile..perhaps it's only for the time being..can't you really live without sex..you could suggest different things to here where in both of you could be satisfied.you could make love without doing the intrercourse part.although it's differenr, it's still nice to know that you guys could enjoy each other company and discover different things about each other.
2007-01-17 01:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by shazeldg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must respect her. If you really love her, then show her by proving that you aren't just with her for sex. Spend time with her. Once she realizes that you really do love her and not the sex, it's possible that she will want to have sex again. Because she'll feel emotionally safe giving it up to you. Unless, she a born again christian or something like that.
2007-01-17 01:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by pilljills 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her you can't live w/out sex and that if you are a great bf, then she needs to explain why she feels the need to withhold sex from you because a relationship w/out sex is not a relationship, it is a friendship and you will get sex from another place/person whether you think about it now or not, you will inevitably cheat or breakup so you need to talk to her.
2007-01-17 01:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by prettyme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
most times when a woman wants to cut down the amount of se-x then they are normally cheating sorry to say but i would watch her and her reactions to you touching her and that sort of thing as normally if they pull away they don't need it from you they are getting it somewhere else
2007-01-17 01:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by megan p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋