I am 32 years old I have had two failed marriages one of which is not over because he left and I have no idea where he is. I have 4 daughters and I am alone. I Have been alone for 1 and a half years now and I want to move on. I have decided to try and get divorce without him around but, where do I go from here? I am ready to move on with my life and try and find someone that will love and appreciate me the way I will them. I have had some bad taste in men in my life and they have left me high and dry with my girls wondering what happened. I don't even know where to start. I dont get out of my house much. I do online classes and I stay at home with one of my children while the others are in school. I do not get a chance to get out much and there are only two friends that I have here. Wow when I put it like this I am really sounding patheticv. Well, if there is any advice that anyone can give me...I would greatly appreciate it.
2007-01-16 16:58:58 · 8 answers · asked by redscarlet_witch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are not in very good position to give you advice. You may talk to your family, I mean your parents and siblings, because they are the persons who love you most, they will do the best for you.
If you are seeking new partner, just do what you enjoy most, you will meet someone with the same interest.
^_^ good luck, be happy, you have my support
2007-01-16 17:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by ◄Hercules► 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you concluded the real reasons you are alone? Do you know exactly why you have been left high and dry? You could be a great person and this will still happen if you're attracting a certain type. Maybe they think you're TOO nice and just take what they need and run. I hate having to be cautious of giving, but it can save you lots when you see the hand reaching out farther and farther towards you.
Be real with yourself and find the pattern.
2007-01-17 01:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by degroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie file the papers it dosent matter they will put an ad in the paper for him to see that u have filed and then if he dosent answer then the judgement will go through move on get out of the house go to a singles club or go out to school find a sitter and take your life back it wasnt you there isnt anything wrong with you it was him . it took me a long time to relize that also i have a failed marriage and after 3 yrs of sitting alone i got tired of being alone and feeling sorry for myself and decided to go out to a movie for a start by my self . take baby steps dont try to much at first just get out and enjoy life
2007-01-17 01:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by sheri h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is time for you for introspection. You only need to find out what has been wrong in you.
Because a marriage does not break if only one person is wrong. There must have been some weakness from you as well as from ur ex.
You need to find out your weakness, work on them, become a good person, then think of becoming a wife of someone next time.
2007-01-17 01:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by akela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how spiritual you are but sometimes growing closer to God is the best thing when there is no hope left. When you grow closer, you'll discover changes in yourself - positive ones - and you'll soon attract the right kind of men that will love you and your daughters unconditionally. If you let go and let God, you will have the life He had created you for according to His plan. Good luck and God bless you! Keep on praying...
2007-01-17 01:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run out looking for Mr. Right. Let him find you because your past decisions have not been very good.
Don't go to places where you met the last guys, try a different tact and TAKE YOUR TIME.
2007-01-17 01:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try stayin single for a while your only 32 dont go lookin for your next serious realationship try to enjoy being single for awhile go out with friends have a good time enjoy life for a change
2007-01-17 01:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by jason h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn"t rush anything you don't need a man around live for your kids and do right by them and the rest will just happen ...
2007-01-17 01:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by hmwh_mwc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋