Some friends of ours are always comparing their children to ours.Always making underhand comments about how their children have this or that better.Always boasting.They try to come off like they are giving us advice,helping us to make sure our kids are at least almost as good as theirs.Why do they behave this way?Do they not realize they are turning people off with this behavior,that they are hurting people's feelings?
2007-01-16 16:53:43 · 16 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Ask them about it. Be polite, they may not realize the extent to which they're doing it. They may just be really proud of their children. Tell them how uncomfortable it makes you feel, and maybe it will stop.
2007-01-16 16:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't realize how they come across. If they are truly your friends then know that they mean you no ill will and are probably just bad communicators. Look at it this way. Maybe this is all they have in their lives. Scratch the surface a little. You never know. If it really bothers you gently speak to them or don't spend as much time together in situations that will allow the conversation flow in areas that upset you. We are all proud of our kids. It's a touchy subject. Best of luck.
2007-01-16 17:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just like bragging about their kids! But some really have low self esteem about their families and are trying to compensate for whatever they are lacking.Most of these people don't realize they are alienating. Not only do you dislike it but their own children will be embarrassed and horrified as they get older.Sometimes you have to rudely change the subject off of kids.But looking at it on the bright side, They are proud of their kids and paying attention to them. Better than neglecting them.
2007-01-16 17:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the wonderful world of fu fus. They think they are all that and have all the answers becuase they have the perfect house and the perfect schedule and house in the exurbs. They expect gold card service where ever they go and listen to and do all the things specificed in the latest magazines. If they are so insistant on telling you the "truth" to benefit you kindly show them what not being a puffed is all about. They are probably jealous that you are so relaxed.
2007-01-16 17:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy do I understand how you feel.
I had a friend like yours. We are still friends but the kids are grown now.
I THINK, in my case, she was jealous and insulted in a passive aggressive manner, trying to make me feel/look like less of a parent. Compared to her.
A few times I had gotten fed up with her remarks and called her on it. She claimed she didnt do it on purpose. But we both know she was.
2007-01-16 17:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a uncontrolable desire to be better than everyone else. It's called keeping up with the Jones'. They compare their kids to yours because it makes them feel better about their ability to parent or it makes them feel good about something they are concerned about.
2007-01-16 17:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually showing off and boasting is a clear sign of insecurity within self. you needn't worry about these people. because what they don't realize is that by talking like that about other peoples kids they are just exposing the weaknesses of their own parenting. all kids are gifted. they all have their own talents and they need support in order to improve their skills. just be there for your own kids and watch them outmatch all these other kids who you keep hearing about!
2007-01-16 17:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nolee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who do this are insecure, selfish and self-centered. The funniest part is they really don't realize they are hurting other people; that's part of their makeup of their twisted character. They are best ignored.
2007-01-16 23:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister in law like that. Nothing my child does or says is as good or as funny or as correct as her child. She makes me sick so I don't go around her any more. My husband thinks I'm over reacting because she does this to every one. Well not me!
2007-01-16 17:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that they are insecure regarding their parenting skills.
And no, it sounds like they're way too self absorbed to realise how off putting this is.
2007-01-16 16:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Cynthia D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋