2007-01-16 16:49:31 · 14 answers · asked by whyy_nottt 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Instead of trying to appear to have self-confidence why not work on boosting your self-confidence....It can make all the difference in in the world.
For each person, the process may be different. What works for some may not work for others. The key is to truly enjoy life, you cannot give up on yourself. Try anything and everything: journaling, meditation, therapy, antidepressants, B vitamins, exercise, etc. What works for you will be different than what works for someone else. Trust your instincts. And never give up.
2007-01-17 01:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute, you want to know how to appear to have self confidence. I already see the problem and I've been there myself. Here's the key... self confidence is something you have to be dedicated to finding because self confidence speaks and shows for itself, plain and simple. Ask yourself what are you doing that is beneficial in your life. Are you able to say, "Thank you God for the person I am today"? Self confidence comes from having no doubt in your capabilities.
2007-01-16 17:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you take care of yourself will help you appear more confident. Good grooming is essential to not only appearing more self confident, but feeling more self confident as well. People see a well groomed, well dressed( i don't mean expensively) person and they are seeing confidence. Walk straight and tall, keep your head up. This will help people see you feel good about yourself and are not afraid to move through life with your head held high.
2007-01-16 17:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by intensegrl74 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to appear to have more self confidence, why not talk to someone about building your actual confidence level. Why would you want to fake self confidence? I suppose you could do so by holding your head up straight when walking into a room and looking people in the eye even if your shy and no matter what your speaking about make sure you sound like you believe it yourself. Your best bet would be to start therapy and actually fix your low self confidence though instead of faking it.
2007-01-16 16:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You mean how can you fake it when you feel small?
Good posture, speak loud and clearly, give good eye-contact, all the while trying not to look like it's all a show.
Although my advice to you would be to work to really have self-confidence, and if you actually have it people will know. You won't have to prove yourself. However, in the mean-time, I would look up body language to see better ways of projecting yourself.
2007-01-16 16:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is OK to be anxious or someone who does not appear "confident" based on standards of behavior set by others, but lots of people out there haven't figured that out yet. They haven't figured out how to tolerate their own discomfort of being around someone who doesn't fit their idea of composure or confidence. One technique is to realize it is about the anxiety of other people, that the more judgmental they are, the more insecure they are, & the more reassurance they need, kind of like children. Some people find a "caretaker" role is less threatening, & it frees them to engage in those behaviors (explained well in other responses) to appear confident. It is perfectly fine to feel anxious inside, to be who you are internally, & change your outward behavior to make life easier.
2007-01-16 18:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by alma_jolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up straight. Walk confidently - head up, eyes ahead, determined look on face. Speak clearly and concisely (no "umms" or anything like that). Don't fidget in any way (play with your hair, tap your fingers, etc.). Be decisive.
2007-01-16 17:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by ~Christine~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUst be direct and ready to respond, make eye contact, and a slight smirk. Don't confuse confidence with arrogance. Just play it cool. Just think of the situation your in and if you feel uncomfortable and out of place, just shine on and tell yourself you've earn the right to be were your at.
2007-01-16 17:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Gianna M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's all about looking like you have stuff to do, even if you don't. not to the point where you are rushing past people, but where they can see that every step you take is deliberate, and you're never just hangin out somewhere like a bum. try to seem like you have a purpose for everything you do by not slouching or slurring, and a smile and a firm handshake can go a long way.
2007-01-16 16:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by evilclownspiders 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Faking it doesn't make you feel very confident, does it? You could stop caring so much about how other people are judging you.
2007-01-16 17:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋