A question of curiosity to others' opinions. My friends and I have differences of opinion and wonder what the rest of the single, dating world thinks. What are the odds of a relationship that starts off as "friends with benefits" developing into something more emotional, and/or committed.
We are split down the middle. 1/2 think it would never work because of the way the relationship actually started, and the other 1/2 thinks that if the "benefits" are great and the general relationship between the 2 is good and they have alot in common it could turn into a wonderful, fun and lasting relationship.
So world, tell us your opinion... has your experience developed into something something more... guys, have you fallen for that friend and wanted more with her, gals can you continue to seperate the 2 differences.. just sex with no emotional ties, or does the emotions take over and you wanted more. Comments from men and women wanted.
2007-01-16 16:26:06 · 3 answers · asked by deanie1962 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Great question, I hope the jerks pass it by.
I don't think starting off with benefits is a good idea, but possibly soon after and you trust the partner. I certainly feel you should never marry a partner without first having sex because it may just not work for the two of you. The option to hold back will sometimes work toward marriage but then who knows how it will work. Sex is not everything, but bad sex is horrible in a marriage.
Don't let religion be your guide, you have to think for yourself and go with your feelings.
2007-01-16 16:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think your friends are right. on average it pretty much is a 50-50 shot either way. Either something happens or it doesnt.
personally though, i kind of think that you have a better shot if a friendship or w/e becomes a friends w/benefits kinda thing for it to turn into an actual, successful relationship. Afterall, your allready passes the awkwardness of waiting to have sex. Ive had 2 friends with benifits and im currently in my 2nd. the first ended up in a relationship, but it didnt last, long at all. we still are FWB, but not so much anymore. the one im currently in has a bf and we'll be on the fritz till they breakup.
my hope is that they wont make it (cause ive always had feelings for her) and being as she agreed to be FWB if they ever do break up while she was dating him, deep down she doesnt care about him.
now i dont recomend every relationship to start this way, but going from relationship to FWB will usually end up back together then breaking up w/out FWB. starting a FWB thing then a relationship has a good chance. and just a FWB thing probally might nvr be a relationship. but you never know.
my experience, 1FWB became a relationship that died out and were still on a FWB basis. my other one, ive still got my fingers crossed for to enjoy our FWB status, then, who knows.
2007-01-17 15:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by tmntvspr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as a long term relationship i dont think it would last if it started out physical right off the bat. then its expected and the whole relationship changes. if both people can deal with it then good go for it,but i just think its VERY unlikely it would work.
2007-01-16 16:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by sportslover123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋