im a over weight mother of 3 married for 14 years?

Question

how do i make myself feel better about myself and my life without making a big change

Answer 1

I'm not exactly sure why you don't feel good about you,....you gave birth to 3 human beings! married for 14 years?? How many people can say that anymore? You've accomplished alot girl,...be proud! when I'm not feeling good, i take a bath, go get my nails done, or a pedicure, or a hair cut,..just something pretty for me. Besides,..your kids need you feeling good girl,..remember that..

Answer 2

Start with a new hair style and one new outfit. An outfit that you can wear everyday, but that is trendy and cute and a bit outside the box you're normall in.

Then go from there.

I lost weight - not a lot, but enough to make me feel better about me after my 2nd baby - but just cutting out bedtime snacks. I'd have a bowl of ice-cream with my kids and that was it. And salt- cutting down on sodium made a big change with a minor adjustment.

It also made me feel like I was doing something to improve my appearance and health which motivated me to do a little more and a little more. But never once did I make a dramatic change.

Answer 3

I too was where you are! However, I never let my weight stop me from doing and being the best I could be. One thing I did do is figure out why! I realized that I ate for comfort! Also, I did not know how to stop! When I made a plate of food, I had to finish it. Now, I realized listening to my body that when I am full its ok to stop. It was not easy. My weight was never a factor to me. I never let people tell me I was fat! Hello, I already knew that, duh!
Take a good look at yourself and your life. You are doing the most important job in the world as being a mom and "NO ONE" can take that away from you! Usually, if you present yourself as cofindent, others will see that too! Be proud of who you are and what you still have to accomplish! Start taking a walk a couple of times a week. (if you have a dog, take the dog) Do what makes you feel good! Good luck to you. Remember you are important and special!

Answer 4

Go for a walk around the neighborhood before or after work. It's not a huge change. Have a friend join you if you can for moral support.

My neighbor does it everyday and it doesn't seem to be that big of a deal.

If you can't do that. Limit the watching T.V. to 1.5 hours after work. You'll be forced to pick up a hobby and do something productive with your mind instead of letting it waste (like a walk). I've done it. It's wonderful. This will make you feel better about yourself.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm a fit 32 year old who wishes I were overweight with 3 kids so that I can at least have the 3 kids :)

The grass is NOT greener. Just start from where you are. Be consistent. If i were in your shoes, I'd try to pinch out at least 10 minutes a day, then 20 minutes a day, then 30 minutes a day to yourself. This will give you the time to think, plan, strategize, organize the rest of your life. You need to first etch out the time you need to reconfigure your daily routine. Each day is one step closer. Asking the question brings you one step closer.

I know you can do it. Start by giving yourself that tiny little time to think and come up with your own answer, your solution to your problem...

Answer 6

First of all, DON'T make it about your weight. You feel better by doing things that are positive, not dwelling on the things that are negative. I'm not saying you should leave your weight alone, since it obviously bothers you and that's why you mentioned it, but instead of making it about fixing what is wrong (ie, your weight), make it about doing something that is positive. For example, decide that you are going to make every meal at least half vegetables to get more of them into your diet and promise yourself to eat them first so you don't run out of room. Makea commitment to drink to glasses of water right BEFORE every meal (which not only helps reduce the amount you eat but is a very healthy change in its own right).

If you focus on DOING things that are good for you instead of NOT doing things that are bad for you, the changes will be easier and it will be harder to fall off the wagon after one less-than-perfect day (or two, etc).

Answer 7

Do things for yourself, buy that dress you always wanted put on a bit of makeup even though your only going to the food shopping that is what my mum did, pretty much in the same dilemma, she just acted confident and went out for a drink or coffee and eventually things start to pick up, because you got out there and did something and met people in process and have a good time, that's all you can do just be strong and let down your hair and get out there, oh those people you think are looking at you, are not it is just our paranoid minds making us feel bad don't listen to it!!!

Answer 8

You just answered your own question. Start with very small changes.

If you want to lose weight, make your goal to stop eating after 7pm. Or you're going to drink water instead of pop. Something small.

Is there something you loved to do as a child or teenager, like art or crafts or something like that? Perhaps getting out with a group once a week would be a little change.

If you start with small things, add them up and they lead to big changes.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 9

remind yourself that you are a beautiful woman in and out and that you are not what you look like but who you are. enjoy your life with your children and your husband. start making time to enjoy yourself and enjoy your family so that you may have a positive outlook on things that will maybe help you feel more positive about yourself and your situation. if you are in a bad situation maybe you should try to get out of it if not then embrace yourself and your family and you will see how you pull through to become a strong and powerful woman.

Answer 10

Start with a small change. Take a walk in the evening with your whole family. Take up birdwatching or something you can all do together.