I've rescently been diagnosed with Accute Myeloid Leukemia. My family and everyone else knows about it. But i want to tell my ex-wife. But i'm unsure as to wheather i need to or not. Its just that I was a United States Marine. Just rescently discharged and although she cheated on me and used me. I forgive her for it. Although i haven't told her that. But i'm just unsure if i should tell her or not. What do you think?
2007-01-16 16:17:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you have kids together?
then yes
otherwise, why?
2007-01-16 16:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are experiencing a normal reaction from hearing such bad news. Many a person who hears this news suddenly wants to make amends with the world. If it makes you feel better then go ahead, perhaps it was already in the back of your mind (the apology) and your bad news has accelerated your need to carry it out. Just prepare yourself that regardless of your bad news your wife may not accept your apology.. You do not need to tell her of your news it is not a legal requirement but if the marriage was lengthy and if there are kids involved then yes you do need to tell her eventually even if you get someone else to do this on your behalf. If there are finances to sort out etc get legal advice and get it in order now, not that you are about to drop from the face of the world but because quite simply we should all have this in order anyway. News of sickness makes us think of the things we need to do that perhaps we should have already! As your wife has hurt you in the past be prepared for futher hurt by her reaction. If you can live with this and telling her you forgive her brings you peace then that is a plus. If you feel you need to do this but are hesitant to do so face to face, write it down after all you dont have to give it to her straight away if at all, it will at least help you get it off your chest. Dont wallow in the past a positive attitude can add years to your life with the right treatment. Draw upon your family for support. All the best
2007-01-16 16:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what u gotta do. You don't know how much time u have left. I bet she still loves you and just tell her that you have leukemia and that you forgive her and you hope all wounds are heald between you two. I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-16 16:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by jaded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you should tell her. If you forgave her for cheating, you must have had some strong feelings for her and I am betting that she had some for you also. She probably knows you better than anyone and chances are that she will be by your side to help you thru this. My prayers are with you.
2007-01-16 16:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you think she needs to know? Are you expecting her to feel bad for you and regret what she did to you if you tell her? Are you still in touch with her? And if you guys are still friends then ya you should tell her, but if you guys have absolutely nothing to do with each other, then she doesn't really need to know. however, if it brings closure to you then I saw go ahead.
In the end, it's your decision remember that.
...and I wish you the best. =)
2007-01-16 16:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From her history, she doesn't sound like she cares so why should you? Depends on whether you currently are in touch or if it has been years or months since you were in contact. I guess you could share it with her and see for yourself.
2007-01-16 16:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are your motives for telling her? If it is to make her sorry, then I would say don't. But if you feel she cares for you and you think she may benefit from hearing it from you rather than others, then by all means, tell her yourself.
2007-01-16 16:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man it's your illness, you can tell anybody you want. Just be clear about why you're telling her. You wouldn't want her to think you're guilt tripping her. I think you could be good friends with her.
2007-01-16 16:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's necessary to tell her, but if you want to then go ahead. If it were me I'd tell only my family and closest friends. Other than that. I'd just keep it to myself, but that's just me.
2007-01-16 16:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by donbenecio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry, if you guys have problems w/ each other then you should talk to her first and tell her you want to be her friend and after you guys are not mad at each other or whatever then tell her about your "sickness" or if you guys already are friends then yes tell her.
2007-01-16 16:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by breanna d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell her! she cheated on you! CHEATED!
2007-01-16 16:22:25 · answer #11 · answered by carrie_underwood_fan_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋