Like right now it's really wierd between my ex. and I. We don't even talk anymore. Is this common ? I really want to be friends but it's so wierd between us now. Any ideas on how to change this too?
2007-01-16 15:58:50 · 10 answers · asked by davi921 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not me and my ex. I hate her guts, in a way that is undescribable.
She tried to stay friends but i was too wounded. I see some other people though, they're getting along well, not well and they keep the friend ship but not me and thank god for that!!??!!
2007-01-16 16:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the answer. Before a relationship can move back to a friendship one there needs to be time out from both in order for feelings associated with ther relationship to be resolved. It may be that her issues are deeper, rejected love etc and she has feelings that need to be worked thru. Perhaps she too thought of the relationship at a deeper level than you. Your offer of friendship still stands but the choice for her o take up that offer remains hers. she may feel that she cannot. You have to accept her decision. Remain polite and respectful, say hi when you see her but respect her decision not to reply. Also be careful that she does not misinterpret the messages and think that the relationship with you can be reignited if that is not what you want. Time out ensures that there is no mixed messages being sent. It is a sad world today that ex 's cant seem to be friends. Your great for taking on that attitude and holding no regrets
2007-01-16 16:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my ex husband got a divorce after 12 years of marriage and we are best friends for the past 8 years because of our two daughters. It was hard at first, but with the both of us working on our friendship it turned out easy. We just can not stand each other to be married to each other.
Hang in there you can do it. Talk to each other and remember you can always go the other way at the end of the day.
2007-01-16 16:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by melanie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases yes. I have seen people that are great friends after, but generally I think these people grow apart and stay apart. Usually people break up for a reason and that reason is typically a bad one. If it's bad enough to make you want to end your relationship, it could be hard or uncomfortable to be around that person. I would recommend a water or pillow fight to break the tension. See what happens. Good luck.
2007-01-16 16:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one old gf that I am still in contact and friendly with. The others have drifted away. Part of the problem is that the new gf/partner/wife will be jealous about this.
2007-01-16 16:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Zyzzyx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm fairly sorry this happened to you. you're actually not on my own. I fell in love with a guy who got here to the States from Africa. I lived with him a year and he exchange into the affection of my life. He decrease back to Africa whilst his visa exchange into up and that i visited him two times there. I stay interior the States. i found out after my final bypass to to him that he exchange into married, the entire time, had married a woman over a year in the previous. I found out by way of his spouse, by using twist of destiny, once I decrease back homestead after 6 months in Africa with him. His fam hated me because of the fact i exchange into American and he exchange into Muslim. He married yet another Muslim female, a Persian female his family members enjoyed. It took me 8 years to recover from him. It devastated me to the element I just about ought to not guard each 2d, the discomfort exchange into so never-ending and extreme. 13 years after the day I met him, I nonetheless think of approximately him right here and there. yet I even have not seen him now for 6 years and life is going on. I actually have a new child now, and that i've got my very own life, and that i'm chuffed. I survived it. you will, too. you have not got the different selection. i'm purely happy i'm not the guy's spouse, with a cheater husband like that. I have been given the better end of the deal, and have self belief me, you purely did, too. Plus I understand the relationship is usually doomed whilst the family members hates you, fantastically whilst the family members has close ties with that individual. It purely turns into soo stressful. So purely be attentive to that there is life after her. you have got painted your destiny along with her in it, yet now you ought to study a thank you to create a appropriate present day and destiny without her in it. and you will. Your perfect wager is to discover a sparkling lady buddy. you will be able to consistently have love for her, yet as quickly as you fall for somebody else, it is going to assist you progression on. And quickly.
2016-10-31 08:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually me and my exes either end up not talking or becoming friends with benefits...thats just me though ;P...i cant help u with that it depends on what happend in ur relationship...its really awkward after with most ppl
2007-01-16 16:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is common and there isnt really much thing you do if ur ex doesnt want to be friends.
2007-01-16 16:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your ex get over his hurt feelings then it would be easier to be friends.
2007-01-16 16:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can if yoou and the person had a friendly breakup then you can be friends it hard at first but you can talk to each other when
things cool off.
2007-01-16 16:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋