Should I tell him?

Question

I have been "dating" a very cute, yet very persistant guy lately. He is pretty fun to hang out with but I really can't see myself getting serious with him for the fact that he can never be serious. He doesn't understand why I don't want a serious relationship with him, and I keep telling him it's too soon and I need more time. While that is verrry true, it is also because he can never be serious, which is fine if it's who he is, but when he picks on me allll the time (as a joke) it makes me look at him like just a friend and not someone I could be luvy-duvy with. Should I tell him why I don't want to date him, with the hope that he'll calm down and I'll be more attracted to him? Or should I just keep telling him that I just want to be friends?

Answer 1

I would speak your mind and trust that he can put the things you tell him into perspective. I can speak for anyone else but for myself I tend to joke around more often as sort of a security measure. It keeps people at bay guessing about me. And when I receive news that I know is something I have to wade around it then I am serious. Also bear in mind if you don't have friendship, it's pretty useless to attempt to build a relationship any further. Friendship are the very foundations all relationships are built upon anyway. Of course you could also fight fire with fire and throw out something jokingly along the likes of, "you couldn't 'handle' a serious relationship-you're too much of a clown!" say it and see what his response is. Might have him second guessing what the hell he's doing, and he might tone it down a notch. good luck to you!

Answer 2

Guys can be clueless even when women give plenty of hints and clues. Sometimes, you need to be direct and honest, but in a way that isn't critical or that will hurt the guy's feelings.

I think you need to have a talk with him and tell him what you are looking for.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Tell him the truth so he can have the chance to grow and to know what you need. If he really cares about you he'll work on change. If he only cares about himself you'll see. judge a tree by it's fruit; if it's an apple tree it will produce apples, if I tell you I'm an ant eater check out my snout.....oops! in my case that won't work, just watch to see if I eat ants.

Answer 5

damn same with me. 'cept i'm the dude who is always joking around. honestly give the guy a chance, he might straighten up. cause that's what i'd do. but then again i'm not the guy you're talking about. take a chance and hope for the best. whatever the hell that means.

Answer 6

If you like him, tell him you don't see the romance but you REALLY like him, and if it doesn't work out yall could be friends

Answer 7

Tell him both. Maybe that will calm him down. and maybe you can still be friends if that is what you want.

Answer 8

tell him straight out that you dont want to date him.
if he asks why then use the ETERNAL female line of "if you dont know then im not going to tell you"

Answer 9

you should tell him the truth, if that how you feel then if he want
to get with you then he has to deal with what going on.

Answer 10

Go with what you feel.