This question is not a joke, so please don't leave rude comments.
My best friend is a great guy. I have known him for a long time, and he is one of the funniest and most loyal men I have ever met. I don't have romantic feelings towards him, and I'm in a very serious relationship; our friendship is strictly that - a friendship.
About 7 years ago, he was very depressed and he tried to commit suicide by shooting himself in the head. He obviously failed, but was left with some disfigurations. I don't think he is hideous, but he's not normal looking. His nose is disfigured, and he is missing some teeth. He can't really close his mouth. He is blind in one eye. Other than that, his body is fine. 6 ft tall and fit.
All I want for him is to find a nice woman who will love him, and who he can love back. He thinks he will be alone forever. Do you think he has a chance of finding true love? Would you ever date a man like this?
2007-01-16 15:51:25 · 5 answers · asked by meow_mystery 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How a person looks is not what makes a relationship work, it's simply a first impression. Your friend needs to boost up his self-esteem and gain more confidence in order to work towards making it past that first impression--to the point that women will be interested in getting to know him as a person, and then take it from there and see where it goes.
And if he's not yet comfortable enough to simply approach a woman, he could start w/online dating so the person will get to know him for who he is, not how he looks and Once he has made an emotional connection with that person, he could reveal the other issue to her.
But please remind your friend, that although he's not happy with his looks, he should NEVER settle for less--he shouldn't feel like he HAS to be with a woman simply b/c she likes him, and he thinks that it will be hard for another one to come around--he should maintain high standards when it comes to a relationship, and don't let himself be taken advantage of.
And on an end note, it seems that two of him main disfiguration problems can be corrected with routine cosmetic procedures (the nose and teeth). It may be costly, but it's worth looking into. And if he has insurance, some of the surgeries could be partially covered as necessary medical expenses, if the disfiguration is interfering with his health (for example, not being able to chew properly due to lack of teeth, or having trouble breathing, etc.).
Hope it helps!
2007-01-16 18:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by WickedCute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many women who have an extraordinary past who are in long term relationships and some are married. The men are straight men, no interest in other men. I myself am a woman with an extraordinary past who is also married to a wonderful straight man. Now as for the "why some others did?" Well, not even going to ask about the grammar.. but who knows... you will have to ask them. To ask others to explain what people do will not get you the correct answer.
2016-03-14 06:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't see these things as 'disfiguring'. If someone is around him enough to get to know him and they love what they know about him then these things will not stop them from loving him or wanting to be with him.
2007-01-17 05:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course he does it takes the right person to come along. I saw once on discovery or tlc a while ago a woman who was born without legs. she found a man to marry her and they even had a normal child. i saw on television another time a cop got into a major crash and his skin was burned off on his face and hands, he literally looks like a crash dummy now. Even after all of that he had another child. His wife stuck by him. If anyone takes the time to get to know him and look past all of that, im sure hell find the right one.
2007-01-16 15:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I, personally, think that it's whats inside that counts. I also know a lot of people who feel the same way. I don't think your friend will be alone forever.
2007-01-16 15:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly dont know, but I SINCERELY hope he does. I will pray for him. Perhaps he could put up a personals ad and he could explain his condition there and see how it goes from there. Its nice of you for being a good friend to him.
2007-01-16 15:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Krishna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋