how do you get someone to leave you ALONE??

Question

ok, i go to a private school, not a fancy one, but just a skool for kids who are having problems with public school, or, in my case and others, the legal system. as much as i hate to say it, and as politically incorect as it is, theres quite a few 'retards', outcasts, idiots, and autistic kids. i have nothing against these people, except that they wont leave me alone, drool, smell funny, or **** all over the bathroom floor. please, dont judge me harshly. theres this one girl there, who keeps sitting close to my 'group', doesnt have a CLUE. she keeps trying to talk to me, and it makes me sick just to look at her. ( a teacher will explain something, she'll kinda sit there half asleep with her mouth open - she looks like kim jong il or whatever) every time someone is absent, she will announce it to the teacher 'oh, _______ isnt here today' as if she was freinds with them and knew what they were up to. i know it sounds aweful, but i just dont want anything to do with them. any suggestions?

im really a nice person, i just dont like 'these people.'
please, just give me some sound advice, im not the only person who wishes that she would die, but PLEASE no SMART REMARKS OR INSULTS. IM JUST TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHATS BEST.

Answer 1

not proud to say this but when i was about 16 or so I have a girl who liked me and sadly i did not feel that way for her and she wouldnt leave me alone even when i expressed that so i decided to try to make myself undesirable to her. Dont shower for about a month they might catch the hint, not a great solution but its nicer than being rude directly.

Answer 2

I guess I'd have to agree with the first answer here. You don't get thrown into a group of "retards" for no reason. Every one of those people is fighting, not only their own demons, but the system and people like you who look down their noses at them, calling them retards and "those people." This girl, like another answerer has said, needs a friend, and sees something in you that you obviously don't want to see in yourself. She sees a potential friend. Yes, some of them seem to be a bit overbearing, and they do often have trouble understanding the concept of personal space. But they try. They don't go around deliberately insulting others, and they are perfectly willing to accept you or me despite our many flaws.

Schlitzy was the famous sideshow pinhead -a grown man with a head the size of a cantelope, who was dressed in a gown and often mistaken for a female. He was a delight to be around, even with the mentality of a 3-year-old. Any time someone made a mistake, he'd laugh and point, exclaiming, "There! You SEE?"

If you've never seen the Dustin Hoffman/Tom Cruise movie, "Rainman," it might help you see how a person can learn to see through the autism and actually accept and love the person under it. You have life easy compared to them. Maybe this is the lesson you need to learn in this private school. It'll make you a much better person. If you think you are a nice person now, wait till you actually learn something from them!

Answer 3

hey, i know where you are coming from. i work with pathfinders (mentally disabled individuals) and it is not always easy. mainly the reason this girl does this is she sounds like she needs someone to give her some attention. i'm not there so i dont know but if you just said hi suzy how are you today, oh that's good, have a good day, i'll see ya tomorrow-that might be a polite way to say hello and goodbye all in one and there will be no hard feelings. another thing to keep in mind is that each and every person in this world is only one car accident or something from becoming incapable to care for ourselves and must be thankful that we are not in their situation and understand that they did not choose to be as they are. they are human too and just want someone to at least show some care and concern. they don't always want to be there 24/7, mostly they'd leave you alone if you just gave them 5 minutes out of your day. hope this helps
"be good to everyone cause everyone is having a tough time"

Answer 4

It is a problem that you need to deal with. It is as simple as that. If it is a matter of invading personal space to an uncomfortable level then you need to firmly, but nicely ask them to leave. If that doesn't work have a talk with your teacher about it.

I live in Manhattan and I come in contact with people that might be considered all of what you describe just getting on the subway. Get on with your life, be pleasant, but let it go. It doesn't hurt to just say hi, and go your way. If they follow and interrupt then just politely let them know. It might be tthat maybe they don't understand these boundaries, but there is no reason to be harsh.

And I can see how you can disregard all of this after I say this, but maybe you need to get over whatever fears or repulsion you have. It is coming from you. Not them.

Answer 5

You need a good dose of compassion.

Put yourself in that girl's position for a moment. Imagine what she has to go through. She's doing the best that she can, and that's not good enough for you.

There but for the grace of God goes you or I. So, you are in that place for getting into trouble. And some of the others are there because of the accident of injury or illness at their birth.

Does this make you any "better" than "those people"?

I think not.

Answer 6

It sounds like you don't want to hurt her feelings. The next time she comes up to your group, you might tell her that you all are talking about some really private stuff and would she mind going someplace else. You may have to come right out and say something like, "I'm not trying to be mean, but I don't really feel like we have anything in common. I'm sure you can find someone else to hang with." Keep in mind she is probably just trying to be accepted and fit in. If it really gets you, you might talk to your school counselor about her.

Answer 7

If the people really are mentally disabled, then they don't really know what's considered appropriate, and when people are trying to give them subtle signals. They probably can't help having accidents in the bathroom and so forth. I'd say just be kind.

Answer 8

Maybe you shouldn't have had a problem with the "legal system" in the first place. That's a nice way of saying that you screwed up somehow and you got put in "alternative school".

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Ignore them. Don't have eye contact with them. Keep a distance of 10 yards from them.