ok i have sort of a problem here, i have been with a girl for 2 years now, at first i knew that was what i wanted and i loved her, she was acting crazy on me so that started changing my way of feeling, lately i find myself not wanting to be with her, she now acts so nice and is very loveble but i wanna be with a man, i dont want to hurt her by breaking up with her, im also scared she might tell my mom about us, though i believe she was already suspecting something, i have always denied us, i would never think about comming out but she would, this causes fights, but now i know i dont wanna be with any woman, i experienced it now im done, it only assured me that i am meant to be with a man, but she is so nice to me i am so scared of loosing her as friends or even hurting her, what do i do now?, also i am 20 , she is 25 i dont know if this helps to know
2007-01-16 15:49:16 · 16 answers · asked by Happygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hurry up and tell her that you don't want to be with her anymore. its not fair to you and its not fair for her.so be with a man if that will make you happy. and let her be happy with someone that will love her. if you pro long this relationship it will be harder to end. And if she's going to tell your mom about you two shes gonna do it regardless. so end it right now. if you want to be freinds with her. talk to her but it might take her a while to come around, being that she's hurt from her heart being broken.
2007-01-16 16:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should sit her down one day and have a talk with her and tell her how you feel and avoid a fight and ask her to be friends. she probably will understand, if you say the right words, just be super nice to her. if she does happen to tell ur mom then do something that is important to her that she would feel really bad if you did. and just explain to your mom that you were experimenting and you know what u want now, and if she gets mad at you then, tell her she shouldnt be mad and she should respect your choices b/c your a grown woman, and say that "a kid only grows up to be what they are is from how they were raised," and that will make her feel bad..... if she like goes off on you or something. well hope i helped good luck!
2007-01-16 16:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by breanna d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitly tell your girl how you feel. I mean, put yourself in her shoes, would you wanna b with someone who didn't wanna b with you? And as far as her telling your mom, you are a grown a** woman. Your mom should love you unconditionally and be even more accepting seeing as though it was just a phase. If you would like to live a lie, by all means stay in the relationship, but if you don't wanna be held back and want to live your life the way you want to and find a nice loving man, let her know how you feel and move it on up...
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Oh, sorry got distracted :) Best of luck to you!!
2007-01-16 15:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by The One 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-31 08:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you- it won't be easy but you have to tell this girl exactly how you feel. Doing the right thing is often difficult- but it's still the right thing. Maybe let her read your post here.
I have no idea how she'll react. Prepare yourself for the worst and hope for the best- do it- your strong enough to handle this *smile*
2007-01-16 15:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by MeaCulpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you date a man or a woman, trying to be friends after a break-up can be a lost cause.
You need to be honest with her and say you don't want to be with her anymore. You don't need to say anything about wanting to be with a man to her, it will only make her more upset.
2007-01-16 15:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by meow_mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think she might tell let her...if you think ppl will have a problem with make sure they understand that you're done with it you tried it you did'nt like it and you're good with yourself now if they can't accept that fact then they're not worth worrying about anyway i've been wondering about coming out about being bi anyone who has a problem with it can just buz off....
2007-01-16 15:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to go with ur gut feeling-u cant stay in a relationship just because you are scared of what will happen-i would talk to her shes gonna do what she wants to do and if you stay with her because of that you are letting her have control over your life-if you truly feel that this relationship is not what you want anymore it is not fair to you or her to stay in it-
2007-01-16 15:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that lover to friend thing...lol...um so what if she tells your mom, you are an adult and you were experimenting and thought that was what you wanted..but if you are not happy you cant stay around to just not hurt them...
2007-01-16 15:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u had a great relationship. well hold onto her until u do find a man, that way u won't be lonely at all.
then when he comes a long, just tell her and behonest
2007-01-16 15:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋