Is anyone else in this boat?

Question

In the past year, I have been to NINE weddings. It now seems like almost all of my friends are married. I am not. I feel like I am getting left behind! I am 32, date, etc and would love to be married, but it seems like no one is the "one" so to speak.
There are nights where I wish I would have someone to go on a date night, etc.... and I don't. I just feel like I am running out of time. .... does this make sense?

Answer 1

yeah, Einstein, you'll die by 35 if you don't get married.

Answer 2

Yes, I am totally on the same boat. All of my friends with the exception of one are married and I have been in 3 wedding myself and 2 as a guest. I personally am not looking for marriage, I'm 25 years old, but just for a person of the opposite sex to go out with and have fun. I am the kind of person that doesn't like the word "date" it just feels like a word which you feel you are obligated to act someway in a datelike manner (holding hands, kissing, etc.) I believe that you should just hang out and if anything comes of the outing go with it. I might like the person but you won't have to worry about if he is gonna give you that goodnight kiss or say he will call you. Just don't rush it and it will happen to you. If you want to be married, the time will come and it will be with a wonderful person...your soulmate. Good luck.

Answer 3

Yeah. I'm only 24 and I feel that way time to time. Two of my high school friends are married and one has a baby and the other one has one on the way. and the third friend is getting married this summer. i'm the only one left in the group. but i'm in a relationship. it takes time to find someone that you want to spend your life with. i went relationships.com It's a really good website. Maybe you could find someone decent on there. who knows. try getting involved in a yoga class or go somewhere public and join a group of some sort. or just pick a daily activity you can do like riding your bike or running and take the same route everyday. you might run into someone you like. or they might take notice of you

Answer 4

It seems the harder a person looks the harder it is to find someone. It also seems that when a person relaxes and starts just living life and ignoring the opposite gender, then someone comes into their life. Like when married men or men with kids keep getting hit on, or when married women get men's phone numbers slipped to them by waiters. It's one of life's great mysteries.
Try to focus on other things, work, hobbies, fitness, and forget about the opposite gender. In five years or so THEN if you're still single, panic. You're still young (even tho you probably hate hearing that and think I'm crazy).

Answer 5

Majority of US women living without spouse

Tue Jan 16, 10:26 AM ET

For the first time, a majority of American women are living without a spouse, media reported.

The New York Times, which based its report on an analysis of census results, said 51 percent of women in 2005 reported living without a spouse, up from 35 percent in 1950 and 49 percent in 2000.

"Coupled with the fact that in 2005 married couples became a minority of all American households for the first time, the trend could ultimately shape social and workplace policies, including the ways government and employers distribute benefits," the newspaper said.

It said that several factors are behind the shift including women marrying at a later age and living with partners for more often and for longer periods. Women are also living longer as widows and once divorced, often opt to stay single, the report said.

According to the Census figures, only about 30 percent of black women are living with a spouse, compared with 49 percent of Hispanic women, 55 percent of non-Hispanic white women and more than 60 percent of Asian women.

Answer 6

I have been there...just dont' let it lead you in to a rash decision or a quick "relationship fix". I have friends that freaked out because they were feeling left behind and then ended up married to the wrong person. Relax...when it's right you'll know. It's a tough age though...early 30's...it seems like you feel like you have to hurry up and "get a life". Twenties are over and it's time to "get down to business". RELAX....let life lead YOU.

Answer 7

Nine...damn that sucks!!! Just keep looking bro, you will find her if she is out there, but dont limit yourself to one place...look all over...I found someone that is wonderful in a very unlikely location and one I said I would never use as an avenue for love...

Answer 8

its OK, your not running out of time. it is better to wait for the right on rather than marry the next person you see and end up getting a divorce 1 year later. don't worry it will all work out.

hope it works out for you!

Answer 9

think of it this way, while everyone else has settled down, you still have freedom from committment to enjoy a little while longer. You still have plenty time to worry about settling down. Just enjoy the single life and your special someone will show up one day.

Answer 10

hey I am 36 and I am not worry about don't have nobody to marry...The more you worry the worst you will feel, All my friends are marry and happy that is the key, I want to be happy ikethem...Look at your friends if everybody is happy then I can say yes is alot people that will feel like you do...

Answer 11

it does make sense but trust me you are still young, honest it just feels like that, you want to wait for the one that's meant for you, it will happen u deserve that. so try doing more things to meet new people, but it will happen. so dont get to anxious you will get into something you will regret and the one that is meant for you might come along and u will miss them, so just keep your eyes out, and keep praying and don't jump into anything....g-luck