I've been going out with a guy for 1yr. This guy is divorced and has 2 kids. At the beginning of our relationship everything was good, as in every relationship I guess. The guy was even thinking in moving in with me way before I thought about it but then months into the relationship I was feeling a little insecure because I was noticing that whenever I would playfully hit him or bite him he would do the same. It's like he would never let himself so I was feeling like maybe he would turn out to be some type of abuser; so I went behind his back to ask the ex about him and she said no, that he never beat her so when my boyfriend found out what I did he broke if off with me. I think he felt betrayed but ever since then we got back together but it's like he doesn't fully trust me now and he said that because of this trust issue he has with me that he can't move in with me right now but I think it's just an excuse and maybe he's not that into me; yet he tells me "I love u" all the time.
2007-01-16 15:32:53 · 9 answers · asked by bettygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well now...you went into enemy territory because you had doubt. He didn't like it and now he doesn't trust you. Now you both have trust issues. Give it more time. Work on it.
2007-01-16 15:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why he would feel betrayed. He doesn't need to move in with you to have a relationship. There may be other factors involved in regards to joint custody and his kids. Hold off on the moving in issue. And just take things one day at a time for now.
2007-01-16 23:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start trying to gain his trust again. You cant pressure him or force him to trust you. I think he still does Love you it just hurt heaps to find out you went 'behind his back' to his 'ex' bout something so serious. Think about it from his point of view, it would hurt a fair bit and isnt something you can just forgive for. Just give him a bit of time and just be there for him im sure it will still work out.
2007-01-17 17:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiii it seams as he has a problem too nextime he tells you that he loves you ask him if you love me then you have to trust me to and learn to forgive , because trust is a big part of loving someone thease days remmber the past is the past so talk with him and let it stay in hes and your past then move on work trough things togher saying to him if you really mean that you love me then lets plan love and go on with out love and life dont look back but live love care and injoy only for you two now thats real life today shering togher.
2007-01-16 23:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your life by doing new things,
read a book on < Zen> the old books that monks use
do something like going fishing, or outdoor camp
2007-01-24 22:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by William A C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did well cause one should investigate a background of a person when they are unsure about something. Hang in there he will forget the issue and know that you are for real.
2007-01-16 23:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your fault... getting into a relationship, one of the biggest part of it is trusting your partner and you didn't... it would be really hard to earn back his trust.
2007-01-16 23:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the wrong thing.
now you pay for it.
maybe you should have a long break and get together later on.
2007-01-16 23:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cudve just asked him , after all you Were living with him. we need to learn to be honest.
2007-01-16 23:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by rjt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋