I met this guy and things were going great. We would share music, he would bring me small presents, I would cook for him, we would go shopping; he would talk about the stuff we could do in the next few months, etc. It was cool. I really liked him. Then, we had a disagreement: I wanted to see him and he agreed but he never called to say he couldn't make it so I wrote him a nasty email (not nice of me, I know). He stopped calling me - I guess because he was upset. I kept calling him and when he eventually picked up, I thought we settled the score. But still, no calls. Then, out of the blue, he calls me one day to ask me if I wanted to go shopping, so I said okay... and when the time came, I had to call him to find out that something else came up. I was pissed, but I said nothing. Now I don't call and he doesn't call. I recently wrote him a heartfelt apology letter for the things I said in the email (I said he was unreliable and he had no integrity - ouch). Do you think all hipe is lost?
2007-01-16 15:23:38 · 11 answers · asked by Krysta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jumping the gun and calling someone unreliable and telling them they had no integrity are cause for breakup, end of story.
That was about as low as you could get. While it was wrong of him to do what HE did, it was even worse for you to generalize and say the things you said. Maybe his grandmother died and he just didn't want to tell you...that's just an example, but if you let these LITTLE THINGS get in the way in your relationships then you will be hard pressed to find someone who is going to stick it out with you.
2007-01-16 15:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a girl makes the last effort...and it is something as straightforward as a heartfelt apology letter, the guy knows he's got the girl under his thumb. No offense I'm sure you are a great girl but he definitely thinks he can come and go as he pleases. It is on his terms now bc he knows exactly how you feel. I would back off and hope that he comes back but don't make any more contact.
2007-01-16 23:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by bruce_eel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can try until u think it's not worth it anymore. as a guy thing, it seems like the game is over; if i were him, there have to be something else about u that he doesn't like, he wasn't honest with you the whole time. i suggest that u write an email explain everything (u missed him, wanting thing to work out...) and tell him that u just want the truth and are waiting for his reply. Wait for a couple of days, see if there anything happens. if nothing happen, there are 84% men is better than that dirt bag.
2007-01-16 23:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by huandnguyen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your guy has a really thin skin and you need to ask yourself if you really want more of this drama.
Everyone has disagreements, they don't need to become a deal breaker, unless you're looking for one.
I don't think you should call or email him anymore. If he really had respect for you he wouldn't keep standing you up.
Sorry, but I'm thinking you're better off without this one for just now, he's got some growing up to do.
2007-01-16 23:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the connection that you two had didn't pull through a little disagreement, it wasn't meant to be true. I think it is lost.
2007-01-16 23:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by homie101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes all hope is lost dear. it will be hard to correct that mistake. but maybe this guy could have been with someone else all along. or maybe he's not straight and just wanted you as a friend
2007-01-16 23:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Slevin Kelevra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was not prepared to get over the email then im sorry to say it looks like it --- i saw a comment that i thought was interesting --- what is more important your relationship or your beliefs?? it think the belief that he was insulted is more important than the relationship --- best wishes and he was not really worthy of you i think
2007-01-16 23:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait he didn't call both times to tell you that he couldn't make it? Hell, he should be writing apology letters to you!
2007-01-16 23:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by bob888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy is over you.
2007-01-16 23:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by P C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope is lost. never hurt a man's ego- we seek revenge
2007-01-16 23:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by panacea0522 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋