I hear from various family members, my parents, brothers, aunts, uncles, ect. that i talk too much and they find me annoying. And this makes me not want to go to family functions of any kind. I don't want to go to easter, christmas,thanksgiving, family reunions, or even get togethers not on holidays.
Usually when i'm at these functions i am by myself. So when i talk to someone, i like to tell them lots and get caught up on things.. But now that they say these things about me, i don't wanna go.
I have not gone to some, and when my folks come home they tell me that everyone was wondering where i was because they wanted to see me.
so do they really want to see me or not? i'm so confused.
2007-01-16 15:18:00 · 25 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do ask them things about themselves, it isn't just about myself. We get caught up in what was going on in the past few months and such.
2007-01-16 15:31:10 · update #1
I hear it from my parents too....i go to my room when i'm home so they can't say anything to me about being "too loud"....even though i don't even say anything at home...and when i do..."you're way out of hand".
2007-01-16 15:32:59 · update #2
if i don't say anything, they ask myself, or my parents what was wrong with me. if i'm feeling alright.
2007-01-16 15:37:34 · update #3
even though they find you annoying,
go! life would probably be alot different
if you werent there. like maybe they
like you to be there to bug them haha
idk just try not to talk as much and
see what happens
2007-01-16 15:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by asdfjk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They want to see you, they just don't want to hear about every detail of what's been up with you since the last time they saw you. Even family members only have a limited attention span. Make it easier on them (and you) by condensing your recent news into no more than a couple minutes and let them tell you which parts they want to hear more about. Verbal gushing is difficult to get control of, but it's well worth it for everyone involved. In the long run you'll be MUCH better off if you look at this as constructive criticism and make positive changes to fix the problem. This is your FAMILY - they would not hurt you without good reason.
2007-01-16 23:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ianae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill!
Just a rule of thumb in life... anytime you over hear someone saying anything negative about you or your personality, please know that it's never true unless you hear it from the "horses mouth."
Meaning, until you hear them say it for themselves or simply ask them in front of the person who started the rumor... be aware that whomever started that rumor about you is not losing any sleep at night.
It's all in your head! Why? This insecurity can become an opportunity to weed out the people who make you feel bad for being you, but don't be so quick to judge without asking them if they think that way about you, first... or dear heart... you are judging them by not showing up to family get togethers.
2007-01-16 23:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure not everyone thinks you talk too much or are annoying. Maybe a couple of people said that, but I can't believe all your family members feel the same way. What may be annoying to one person, is not to another.
I think you just be you. As long as your not putting your foot in your mouth and hurting anyone's feelings, then I say talk it up if that's what you want to do. Who care what anyone thinks. You were given a mouth to speak with and they are lucky to be blessed with ears to hear. Be yourself!
2007-01-16 23:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problerm is not that you talk to much but dnt listen to all the crazy stories they have. Im sure they want to see u see how ur growing and have a laugh. Just think before u speak and enjoy ur time with loved ones. I dont mean thins in a mean way but i know a close friend the same.
2007-01-16 23:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by emalie_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "What is the deal, I don't know how you want me to act, if I am myself I talk too much, if I try to do better everyone thinks somethings wrong with me,I am confused." Ask this to which ever parent you feel closer too and they will help you.
2007-01-17 01:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not give the other people in your family a surprise by going to the functions and asking questions about them for a change? But genuinely interested when they answer, and try not to talk so much about yourself. Then you will be able to see if you talk too much in general or to much about yourself if they act pleased to see you.
2007-01-16 23:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to say because i don't know them but from past experiences i would think that maybe they like picking on you and only because they like you try letting them talk to you instead of you starting the conversations try being more quiet and if you dont want to go to the family events then don't make them ask why. i think that maybe you should also ask your parents for advice and tell them how you feel
2007-01-16 23:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family seems to love you but maybe when you get near them you get a little too excited. Just remember that some people need a little extra personal space to feel comfortable around others. Their space can be invaded by being too close or even speaking too loudly or too much.
2007-01-16 23:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like they may want to see you but not hear what you have to say. This is kind of confusing, so I think that you need to just ask them about it and make your decision from there.
2007-01-16 23:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family wants to see you whether you believe it or not, but if they make you feel worthless, then you should tell them that. Also, if you are hearing these things from other people, you may want to consider the source of the info. things could easily be blown out of proportion. Just remember, family is to important to neglect.
2007-01-16 23:22:08 · answer #11 · answered by elcidiv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋