nothing bad has happened to me, i have already spoken about this to someone, but , when i have sex, i feel so dirty, the thought of a man being inside of me, i find this to be very priveat, and keep on thinking the worse after i have sex, i never feel special when i have it, and it never turns me on, maybe cause it never lasts that long, im 29 and still feel i will never like sex with my man, i have spoken to him about what i may like but he dont understand me, he just says a holes a hole . what can i do,
2007-01-16 15:08:32 · 21 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please get rid of that guy before you end up with him forever. You need to find someone who cares about you, what you think and feel. That guy has no clue as to what he is doing. I have been where you are and, trust me, you need to keep looking. I did. Now I really feel special and I would do anything to make him feel special. Sweetie, there are times (every time...) that I have to put my had over my mouth to keep from screaming because it is so incredible. He is so incredible. Keep looking. You have no clue what you are missing and I hope you find it.
2007-01-16 15:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he says a hole's a hole, then he's a big part of your problem.
I think kissing is disgusting. Except when I'm with the right person. Likely sex is the similar for you.
However it sounds bigger than that. Talk to your doctor. Your lack of libido could also be caused by any of a number of medical reasons. (Birth control pills, depression, thyroid disorders...)
Oh, and lots of people are never interested in sex. That can be normal. However, in your case, I'd guess that you have some psychological, relationship and physiological issues.
For the psychological, in addition to talking to your doctor, you should pick up the book, Our Bodies, Ourselves. It can be a little out there, but it's filled with female health and sexuality self-empowerment.
2007-01-16 15:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jean Talon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider the difference between sex and love making. If he says "a hole is a hole" then he is merely having sex FOR HIMSELF with you.
Just because you don't like sex with him does not mean that you will not find yourself insatiable with the right person. Love making involves 2 people sharing their hearts and bodies intimately with the intent to give and receive a (preferably) orgasmic sexual experience.
Buy a vibrator and find a man who does not think of you as a "hole".
2007-01-16 15:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you for thinking and feeling what you do. That's what makes you who you are. Don't try to change to please other people. Always be true to yourself. Having said that, when he says, "a hole's a hole", that alone speaks volumes about what he thinks of your feelings. As Dr. Phil says, you teach people how to treat you. If you stay with a guy who treats you like that, you're in a sense telling him that it's okay to treat you like a sperm recepticle.
I hope you're not legally bound to this guy. He's not your husband, is he? If so, you need to get a divorce.
2007-01-16 15:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your disinterest in sex probably has something to do with the partners you are choosing. I mean, ICK!!! A holes a hole? Yeah, and he's what you call an ASSHOLE. Ditch him and stop choosing disrespectful pigs for companions!!!!!!
2007-01-16 15:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by Reese 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like A.. .HOLE
If he's not willing to listen, it may be time to move on.
Find someone you can enjoy sex with, you are really missing out on a beautiful experience (when you have the right one).
You'll wish you hadn't wasted this time.
2007-01-16 15:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you would have great success with a kinky sex life.
You ought to be tied to a bed. Lots of photography and videos should be taken.
Your boyfriend should invite some black guys over to share in the fun.
You've GOT to break out of this shell. Anyone who goes to the extreme of asking strangers on the internet about her sex life, needs to get dirty and whipped.
2007-01-16 15:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find a man who will treat you right, and that you love, care for, trust, and have a relationship with outside of intercourse.
Also seek counseling, that might help.
2007-01-16 15:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by polk2525 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
find a LOVER a man who is interested in you inside and outside the bedroom -- i promise you with someone who really cares about you and your feelings you will discover a whole new world of pleasure
2007-01-16 15:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
could you be a lesbian? Don't take offense to this but I'd say talk to a psychiatrist because I don't think feeling that way about sex is "normal".
2007-01-16 15:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋