Thus guy I know has given me tutoring lessons, and he's always asking me if I would like to sign up for more, but I told him I was going through financail difficualty and couldn't so he offered free sessions, but I never took advantage but what was weird was the fact that he txt messaged me last night at 12:00 midnight asking me if I wanted to sign up for more tutoring sessions and I told him I didn;t know, and he was like well let me know when you have an hour free...Does anyone thinks thats sort of weird..? And what do you think his agenda might be?
2007-01-16 14:57:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Oh yeah..BTW, he told me that he found me to be very attractive, and that he would love to be my friend.
2007-01-16 15:06:21 · update #1
Perhaps he just wants to help you out and knows that you can't afford it. I think it's more believable that he likes you and he finds it easier to ask for a tutoring session than a date.
2007-01-16 15:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beware, he may want to turn the situation into an exchange, free tutoring for some booty. If you accept the free tutoring, and do not want to put out, make that clear before you accept.
And if he pretends to be shocked that you would even think such a thing, and you still do not want to put out, make sure you meet in a public place, and he does not walk you home.
I'd bet money [if I had any] that he has exchanged lessons for booty before.
Sorry, but midnight is a little late to be selling legit tutoring lessons, and telling you how attractive you are, isn't salesmanship, it's comeonmanship. and not professional at all.
Question, is he employed by a school, or a business that does tutoring, or is he free lance?
Advice: tell him no, you can not accept free lessons, thank you. And see what he does. He should say OK, and move on. If he does not, and he is employed by someone, tell them. If he is free-lance, or if he gets suggestive, and tell him to take a hike. and even if he is self-employed, you can still report him to your school, and they can serve as a bad reference, if they will.
2007-01-16 18:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he tutoring you because you asked him, or is he being paid by an agenc or school to tutor you? If not being engaged simply by you alone, he has truly overstepped the bounds of professional behaviour by 1) pressuring you to pay for a service that you have declined AND told him you cannot afford and 2) my messaging you outside of office hours.
It doesn't do any good to ask what his agenda is- you have told him no and he is not accepting no for an answer. Does that sound normal to you? Not to me.
Don't take him up on "free sessions"- your gut reaction was that it was not a good idea, and your instincts seem to be good.
Tell him no firmly and tell him- do not ask, TELL him-not to contact you again. If he persists, report him.
If you have approached him to tutor you and paid him on your own, well, it's still a little weird. Tell him no more lessons.
Most schools offer tutoring for classes for free, or you can sign up via the counselor's office for extra help. Why not go right to the teacher for extra help? Or ask some fellow students to form a study group and quiz each other? It worked for me.:)
Good luck!
2007-01-16 15:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by CYP450 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I read this I immediately thought that maybe he simply didn't think about what time it was when he sent you the text message.
I can't really comment on the rest of it...sure, it could be weird, and his agenda might be more than to tutor you, but we can't tell you about that really...
Go with your instinct. If it seems creepy or weird to you, then be wary.
2007-01-16 15:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's into you. If you think he's dating material, go for the free tutoring knowing that's what he wants. Otherwise, ice him. Either way, sounds like he might be a stalker type. If you do end up dating, it might be harder to get rid of him later than if he was gum on your shoe...
2007-01-19 09:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by SoCalSkierGuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's perspective he is probably trying to find a way to spend more time with you and maybe court you. I cant see any other reason a guy would offer to give you free anything, especially if thats his source of income.
2007-01-16 15:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by nyoo1578 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is kinda weird but i understand where he is coming from. if you dont give him an definate answer then he will keep leaving txt messages and whatever until u say yes or no. i think he just wants a answer set in stone.
2007-01-16 15:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by labellla90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is weird.
Maybe he likes you and feels comfortable with you. He may have romantic notions, or he may just need the money very badly.
nevertheless, he is overstepping the boundaries of professionalism calling you at midnight.
edit:
well if he finds you attractive, then i would call him HOPEFUL, not a wierdo. A lot more charming, indeed.
2007-01-16 15:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by * 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he may like you. Why would someone offer free lessons? And calling you at midnight? Than again, maybe he see real talent in you and whats to help you develop it. I still think he may like you.
2007-01-16 15:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by us5we2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your interested in seeing him as a friend go for the free lessons. If your not decline politely.
2007-01-16 15:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋