How do you breakup with someone who you live with that has no income, no place to go?

Question

I would feel guilty sitting him out on the curb, we both have invested in our apartment, he has been out of work for almost two years. He has stomach ulcers, we've been trying to get those under control, everytime he getsminto a new job, he takes a trip t the ER. What should i do?

Answer 1

Try to see if he qualifies for SSI or SSD under the disability act. Then he will get medicaid or medicare, food stamps and income about 620 to 900 dollars so he can get his own place, Sometimes it takes up to two years to get and if he gets turned down at first, appeal the decision. You can get a lawyer who wont charge you unless you win the disability case. He'll have a better chance of getting it faster sometimes as early as six months. I know it takes awhile but if you start now it will be over faster. Also he can get state disability if he applies for it while waiting for SS decision. This will help with medical and give him food stamps and a little income while waiting. Talk to the welfare people in your county and get him and you out of your situation soon.

Answer 2

Stomach ulcers is not an excuse for a man not working for 2 years. He is plain lazy. He is not responsible over the family. Maybe you leave him will help him to be more independent and get on his feet to find a job.

Answer 3

Find a half-way house and drop him off. My hubby has ulcers and works 2 jobs! That's a bunch of crap and he's suckin you dry. Take him to the nearest family members house and don't listen if he says they don't get along. How do you invest in an apartment when you don't have a job for 2years? Stop making excuses for him.

Answer 4

Two Years? It seems he is making a profession out of this! Girl, please he knows what he is doing. If you put him out, it will force him to get it together and then you will see if he is faking this or not. Once he gets it together, maybe you will see if this is meant to be or not. But you shouldn't feel guilty for caring for him, you have given him 2 years (too long). But I think he is playing you seriously. Stomach Ulcers will not kill him. There is always the YMCA.

Answer 5

You have not said why you want to break up. Explore the possiblities of where both of you have opportunities to be accommodated ie family etc. Develop a time line for this to occur. Make an agreement of how long this will last until you put your apartment up for sale. Surely one of you have the options of relocating. Dont be manipulated by bad health, there are options out there that dont necessarily mean he will be out on the street.

Answer 6

well if u do break up u might as well sign the guy's suicide note cause I think thats what will happen sooner or later. But I can see your point just tell him u cant live like this anymore u need your own life and you have to move on. Crying will help ease him into it too. Be emotional.

Answer 7

Give him a time to get out by. he should be able to get this under control. he can find other to live with for a bit if he really needs to. Some times people have to hit bottom before they really try to get back on thier feet.

Answer 8

ok well first, don't cotinue this relationship. this will only make maters worse, and this will only make the person seem like they will still be apart of your life forever. what you need to do, is just tell this person how you feel. give her/him the real reasons to why this relationship just isn't working. if this perons respects you, then they will understand. as far as the rent/no living situation, maybe offer to help them out. if and when you break up with them, you can't just leave them with absolutly nothing. maybe offer your friendship instead of a relaionship, and offer to help them with their finances, housing situations, etc...just don't be a jerk and break up and leave. that's rude

Answer 9

hmm i think you have a hard decision that is only for the heart.