what should a 15 yr. old gurl do?

Question

this is how it goes... im a highschool working student, athletic and intelligent (as they say ^.~) everything seems to be perfect but not with my family... we live in my moms boyfriend and hes so nice... but it seems and i feel like im not happy anymore... i felt like i want to run as far as i could... it also affects my studies now... i feel so hopeless... i want to stow away far far away from home so no one will find me... i want to go to another place but i cant travel alone coz im underage... im also considering living with my aunt but i cant coz she will surely tell my mom... im also considering living with my friend but they know my mom and surely sent me back home... but i dont want to stay here anymore... wut can i do??

Answer 1

There has to be a reason behind why you feel this way. You need to talk to your mom about how you feel and see what you and her can come up withshe may let you go stay with your aunt under certain conditions just talk to her and see. Don't run away that is a very bad idea. You don't wanna be out on the street and someone comes up and take you off and kill you, rape you, beat you for no reason or just anything to where your mom knows no where you can be bad things can happen out there you need to be home safe. Talk to your mom and see wht you come up with.

Answer 2

This is easy. You are going through the feelings of wanting to be your own woman. Unfortunately, your going to burden people if you cannot pay your own way.

Once you run away and are on your own, you have to work for minimum wage in a job you hate and you will never be able to move back home in a place where they put up with you.

I understand that it feels like forever to finish your schooling but I can promise you that each year you get older, the years are going to fly by, so don't live with regrets that you could have or should have... Finish High School where you are at and allow your mom and boy friend to help support your efforts to be on your own the "right" way.

Answer 3

When I was 15 I started feeling restless at home too. When it came time to go to college I picked a school out of state and 200 miles away from home. Unless your home life is really bad (meaning abusive, neglectful, etc) I'd recommend that you continue to stay at home, keep yourself busy with activities and plan to really spread your wings after high school. Because you are still a minor you are still under your parents' control and the last thing you want to do is be labled as a runaway because at that point, the state steps in and becomes your ward.

You only have a few years left before you'll go out on your own. It may seem like a long time but it'll come before you know it. I promise.

Answer 4

You have to be honest with yourself and try to figure out why you want to leave. Once you have that figured out, talk to your mom about it. Maybe there can be a change made to make you feel better about your living situation.

Do not run away. Your situation always gets worse when you run away because there is no way a 15 yo can support themselves without going into the dark side of life. You could very well end up dead.

Answer 5

when i was a teenager, i was very depressed because of my home life, mostly due to my new stepmother. i remember it feeling like it was lasting for decades, but it was really only about six years. it's such a short time in your life, don't do anything that would adversely affect the rest of what could very easily become a good life. what i'm saying is, grin and bear it. stay the course. hang in there. it won't be forever, not even close. concentrate on the things that bring you joy and happiness in life and concentrate on your future and what you want from it. try talking to your mother, but be sure not to be aggressive or defensive, just try to be sincere. this will be a learning experience for you which will help you become a stronger person, if you want it to be.

of course, if there's anything illegal (abuse) going on at home then that must be reported. no one deserves to have to go through that as a child (or any age).

Answer 6

Hon what you are feeling is NOT unusual! A lot of people your age feel this way (I did) Its hard but the best thing to do is to find someone older than you that you trust (your mom, aunt, a teacher) and talk to them about how you feel...Running away seems like it would make things better but it wont make the feeling go away...its something you will need to be strong and work through! :] there are a ton of people out there willing to help-just ask for it!!

Answer 7

Talk to your mother, and just let her know how you feel. She may not even care, but at least you did try. Then go talk with your aunt and just see how she feels about it. If its a strong enough feeling maybe she will convince your mother to let you stay with her. I wouldn't stay with a friend tho, because sooner or later it will begin to get on the friends parents nerves.

There must be something that happened to make you feel this way, and you need to find out, because the feelings your having now may lead to other feelings that you don't want to deal with.

Answer 8

I'm 14 and I'm living in a foster home because I thought that runnning and hiding would help but it didn't. My mom doesn't have a boyfriend but we were never able to talk and I always depended on school to get me somewhere better. Me and my mom haven't talked in 2 months and I just e-mailed her today. Whatever you do do NOT go to family consuling. I have and it just makes things worse.

If you need more advice or have any for me, e-mail me at: [e-mail]

With hope you won't mess up your life,
Pagan Princess

Answer 9

You need to talk to your mom, maybe there is a way to work things out. If talking to your mom is not an option maybe you can talk to a school counselor or a therapist. Running away is never the right answer...

Answer 10

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