I'm at my witt's end here. Hubby and I recently started talking to my sister-in-law last year after not speaking for almost 7 years (she and the rest of his family caused a lot of problems, tried to split us up etc) she apologized and we let her because we thought we were moving out of state, well that didnt happen. Now she calls us all the time, she's too lazy to work so she went to a shrink and now she gets ssi for "bipolar" (i'm not not knocking on bipolar people, only those who fake it to get out of working in the real world" she's always calling us, she sent one of her evil nasty daughters to stay with us for a week against my will and we almost split up over that, he treated me like crap around her. now she's "dying" of cervical cancer, and has my hubby wrapped around her finger, she has a hubby and a life but she keeps bugging us. she's threating to sue doctors because of her own stupidity and negligence. I just want her to leave us alone, hubby is always defending her.
2007-01-16 14:35:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, you are in a bind. Your husband needs to be reminded why you stopped talking to her in the first place. You guys really need to talk. He needs to remember that you come first; you're his wife. Couples counseling may be the answer here.
2007-01-16 14:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i can relate to that, sis!
pain in the --- sis-in-law r such a damage to a relationship.
it will only end if your hubby tried to find his balls.
isolation is the best, try to emphasize that there are some limitations & walls or else u will end up w/ a broken family.
im sure what you're thinking before u reunite w/ them is that sis-in-law & co. (hubby's family) deserves a 2nd chance, so do i, but the bitter thing is - u are letting them control your lives again. only that now, there goes the drama! u & hubby should not give your full trust & sympathy this time - monsters are monsters, get real! u dont intend to be a saint, right? u just want a peaceful & harmonious & less complicated family life!
TALK TO THE MAN, dont threaten, but explain & elaborate all things up-- it's his family now, that's the golden rule - he should learn to prioritize...
2007-01-16 14:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If moving or getting further away is not an option then you have to find other things to make your life busy enough to not have time for her or her kids. Let your husband know that this almost split you two up... years ago and if he does not put a little space between them and have the two of your time together things will not get any better for you two. Talk to them some but they do not need to be part of your everyday life.
2007-01-16 14:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bless ur heart darlin....u have me truly scarred!!!!!! I have a daughter in law like that and she is just 24! first, it was her childhood....thats what #@#@ed her head up....then she gets caught screwin other men and its cause she was raped as a child, then she has turned to alcohol and thats to block out all the negative **** she goes thru cause we feel she is ruining my son's life. Then they have a baby who is developing slowly....at 19 months she is like an 8 month old......of course its my sons fault...ha.....then she pulled the cancer thing till we find out my sister has breast cancer and lost her breast and so not so funny to her now...so now she has a "bulging disc" and might be a herniated disc...we will know after the mri.....
So, how do u get rid of her...i dont believe u do...i have started calling her on her "bull-****" and its slowin down......let her know I will take my grandbabies if the drinkin dont stop...seems she knows I mean it cause she rarely does now.....and if I dont call her on her **** I just let her run her mouth and when she is done I laugh and walk off...she is getting the point...she should start backing off on the drama queen **** soon...she tried to come between myself, my daughters and put my son against us but in the end....as i told her family is forever and she wants in she best step up...
good luck darlin
and just smile at her with a very devilish evil grin
2007-01-16 15:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by LUVINKC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your hubby and all but sometime you have to let people see things for themselves and right now he is probably thinking you say what you say cause you don't like her but he don't see what your talking about. Let him does what he wanna do concerning her when he starts to see what you were talking about he will come around. Don't try to stand in the way of his family cause that will cause you to to split up cause that is his family and being the nice guy he is he is going to do what he can to help them so just be there by his side don't say anything unless she goes too much overboard and then let him fall flat on his face. People like him have to see it themselves first hand. Just be there to pick him up when he falls.
2007-01-16 14:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is dying why don't you let it go, she will be gone eventually. Let her brother spend time with his sister how would you like it if someone was trying to make you leave one of your dying siblings alone. Give your husband a break he may love you more for it in the end.
2007-01-16 17:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, as you're saying, she acts like a 2-3 hundred and sixty 5 days-previous, i does not assume any variety of apology and particularly not a "honest" one. what share babies do you recognize who're able to understanding then doing something like that? somebody must be the grownup in this dating. because of the fact she does not pay attention to your existence like request (for cooling down time) and he or she's too enormous and cellular to be put in a day trip or taken/ despatched to her room, you will might desire to distance your self from her while she snaps. ignore approximately undesirable habit, reward sturdy. How will this impression your paintings interior the kin organization? (i'm assuming that everybody's function is obviously defined.) subsequent time, do not do her any "favors". sturdy success!
2016-10-07 06:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by kroner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when you marry, you not only marry the person, but the whole family. I really feel bad for you because he is always going to love his sister. Even though it is causing you lots of pain and heartache right now, don't make ultimatums like "it's her or me!" Trust me all guys hate that. Give him time and space with her but not all of it. Remember he did not choose to be born into that family, but he CHOSE YOU to be his!!!!!! I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-16 14:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by eee_aww 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell hubby its you or her. No use dragging yourself through hell over it all because if he seriously chooses family over the person he is supposed to spend his life with, you lose no matter what.
Or, push her down a well.
your choice.
2007-01-16 14:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Neo Tarantula 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has cervical cancer and is dying, why can't you just "suck it up" for awhile and support your husbands need to do things for her? He must love her very much or he wouldn't be acting that way. Do your duty as a loving wife and just grit your teeth and help him out however he wants. If that means help him with his sister, just do it. If you love your husband, you will do this to make things easier for him (not her).
2007-01-16 14:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋