My 18 month old is upset all the time and has been crabby since he was born.He cries a lot.?

Question

My daycare lady said it is way more than she has seen in any other kid she has watched in 18 years. I took him to 5 different doctors who all said that he is normal, but they have not seen him for long periods of time, just on the visits where of course- he is an angel. He won't even sit on the floor and just play with me, he always wants to be doing something or crying- even if he has my undevided attention- he cries. Now he is to the age where it seems like he is just being a brat, but he has always been this way! My husband thinks it is normal- but I don't. I can not believe people would have more than one if this was normal! Has anyone ever been through this? I think maybe it is something medical- or something- I have to believe this is not as good as it gets, but I do not even know if there is a specialist or anything for this? Any ideas before I go crazy? I will do whatever needs to be done, but I just do not even know where to start.

Answer 1

not only the above (1st answer), but how is your relationship with him? Do you enable him? Coddle him? Expect HIS attention at every turn? Do you allow him to have his tantrums and pay attention when he does? Does he get everything he wants? Do you offer him choices?

All of these things may seem normal to you - but if you are over doing any one of these, that could be triggering his reactions.
There is nothing wrong with showing your love for your child, there is everything wrong with overdoing it. Find your balance and stick with it with him.

Answer 2

Greetings, maybe he could be allergic to dairy, but if you are a working mom, you might need to spend time with him, it is hard today, you do not know what is going on at the daycare, your child is your life, do not leave him with strangers, how it looks on the outside, you think everything is fine, who knows, I do not want to think the worst, just be careful. The milk could upset him too. How does he feel if you take him for a stroll to the park, does he like to ride in the car. Try massage or just holding him close to you. Maybe some classical music soft.
The doctors wanted to give my son a spinal tap when he was three weeks old, he had a stomach ache, and the first thing they want to do is a spinal tap, I said no way, it was the milk that was hard on him, or he had an upset stomach. You really have to stay hands on with your child while they are young. If something doesn't sound right or feel right, please trust yourself, and do not discount what you are feeling. Trust yourself in all areas. If he is upset, or crying, please do not leave him
alone, I know it is hard. I know sometimes you have to work and need 2 incomes. Please let us know how he is doing, ok.

Answer 3

He could be a colic-ey baby. But he should be out growing it by now. Mine had that and he was put on a stomic medication. And he is at the age of being able to be alittle spoiled now. Maybe if he HAD colic, he got used to all of the attention and holding him and entertaining him. So that is what he wants now. Just a thought. Mine had that. My husband works third, always has. So, when he slept during the day, I couldn't let the babies cry alot because it would constantly wake him up. So they got very used to me holding them and paying attention to them. But, if you feel it could be medical, maybe you should see another doctor. Hope this helps alittle. Good luck. It does get better and you will want to have more children later!

Answer 4

My daughter is nineteen months and is going to mattress at 7. (provide or take a couple of minutes) She wakes up between 6:30 and seven:30. She also take a 2-2 a million/2 nap in the early afternoon. We had to enable her cry it out and it became puzzling yet soooooo properly worth it. After some nights she became nice. That became a lengthy time period in the past too. i'd propose choosing a bedtime and sticking to it no count number what is going on. per chance do a snack or dinner round 6, then a good warmth bathtub, then quiet track and books. it truly is generally how we do it. youthful babies choose habitual and respond to it so properly. I continually had a strict habitual as an effortless instructor and that i need to assert, my youthful babies we quite properly behaved. So i be counted on sticking to a habitual. Bedtimes are tremendous! You get to have man or woman, quiet, do what ever you opt for time. sturdy success and save in recommendations be consistent.

Answer 5

The people who wrote before me have a lot of great leads as to what the problem might be. One not mentioned yet is sleep. Is he getting enough sleep? My favorite sleep book is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Weissbluth(sp?) It's done wonders with my daughter who is 26 months. And my friends who are parents love the results that they see with their own babies using the advice from the book.

Answer 6

He could be my sons twin lol, my son is now 31/2 and is just starting to "relax" he is very sweet boy but it seem like he is always crying like from the day I took him home from the hospital. He is getting better I just give him lots of hugs.

Answer 7

5 docs, huh? Time to pray for that child. You couldn't take another one huh? LOL. He may be a little depressed and lactose intolerant. Check his diet and have him tested for food allergies. And like the other answerer with the similar child said, give that kid tons of hugs. Shoot, hug him for ME!

Answer 8

I am a firm believer that children are a product of their environment. Before you try to blame it on your childs psyche, take a good look around your home. Was your stress level high while you were pregnant? Was he colic when he was young?

Answer 9

Maybe it's just his temperment. Some children are more mellow or more high-strung then others. My husbands niece has always been sort of loud and hyper. My friend's son is very mellow... always has been.

Answer 10

hes a democrat.