Our sex life is almost non existant, I'm finding myself wanting to cheat more and more everyday. I've tried taking to him but he's having a tough time now. He's unemployed so he's stressing. He can't seem to hold a job, i love him and am willing to ride with him, what should i do?
2007-01-16 14:16:47 · 14 answers · asked by Nikki Nyquil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he may be under stress but that is not an excuse to ignore you. If he can't satisfy your needs, why are you with him? What if it takes a few years for him to get a job or what if he never gets one again? How long are you willing to deal with this?
My ex and I both work and go to school, when he couldn't take it anymore, he ended our relationship.
2007-01-16 14:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nikki, at times we've all felt like this, unsure of which way to turn.
Especially when things aren't going our way, we feel the need to tread another path to see if ''the grass is greener on the other side'', and I can assure you it isn't. Nikki, I do not understand why you are being pushed away because of him being unemployed? I can't seem to tell you how selfish he sounds. In my mind he's almost making you feel as if you are the problem by treating you this way. Two years is quite a long time to just throw away like that. Nikki, perhaps he's feeling insecure about himself and this could be the reason why he's become so distant. If you really want to save this relationship, he'll have to listen to what you have to say or he'll lose you to his own selfishness and insecurities. Tell him you love him and you don't want to lose him over this. Make him see that you're down with him through all the bumpy roads, cuz you're willing ''to ride'' with him no matter what. Maybe you can assist him in finding a job. (That is if his ego will let you). Nikki, sounds like you really love him. I hope you two work things out.
2007-01-16 22:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by Cricket 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering what it is about him that you love. He ignores you. He can't (won't) hold a job. Even your sex life is bad. Do you love him or do you love what you wish he couuld change and become. There's a difference you inow. If you're fighting the urge to cheat, you're not a happy woman!! You might want to rethink this relationship and figure out WHY you haven't broken it off before now. Why are you willing to stay? What kind of life do you see the two of you having together when he is not pulling his weight? Back off and reconsider.
2007-01-16 22:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is unemployed, and he can't even satisfy you in sex when he is so free without job. Loving someone and having a family is two different things. You might still love him, but he is definitely not a good choice to have a family together with.
2007-01-16 22:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but hard times are when you're supposed to have each other for support ... this is a young relationship in the scheme of things ... and it probably won't get better. It's rare that someone's "solitary atttitude" improves with time, ask any married person if these "little issues" got better without a lot of tears and arguments ... no one that I know of yet !
2007-01-16 22:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and find someone new before it turns into 10 years. He cant hold a jpb because he doesnt want to work and then he takes it out on you. If that kind of guy is the best you can do youre in for a very miserable life.
2007-01-16 22:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't make your self available to him for a while. When he calls tell him you'll call him back(but don't) and in a short period of time he will see that he runs the risk of loosing you. If he doesn't then dry your eyes and move on. There is no need to cheat. Your a grown woman. Games only cause heartache and life is to short for that.
2007-01-16 22:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to see a marriage counselor. If this was a dating situation, I'd advise you to get out. Since you're married, I suggest trying to find out what the problem is, first.
However, you deserve better than having to make such sacrifices in your life because you married him. You shouldn't have to spend your life like this so, if he's not willing to work it out, don't cheat, leave.
2007-01-16 22:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he just needs some time. You shouldn't be thinking of cheating because that would just make things worse. If you love him, it's best you give him some time to deal with his problems at the moment. When things get better, you'll see why it's best to be there for each other! =) good luck
2007-01-16 22:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could find some other interests. (no, not an affair) As soon as you start getting interested in other things, he will probably take notice. Take some classes in martial arts, dance or art. Whatever you like. I think you would enjoy it and a side benefit might be an increase in his attention to you. But really, do it for youself!
2007-01-16 22:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by lifeisagift 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋