While it is true that men do not shy away from sex many men are not into the deep physical connection and mood setting that woman seem to like when we are with our man. Is it true that men don't desire romance or super close sexual intimacy like women do. I crave it from my husband but he seems to be fine without it. Are all men like this? Why does he not want to connect with me like I want to connect with him. I know he loves me, his fidelity is not in question. I am just so frustrated that he feels 1000 miles away during and after sex but is more affectionate at awkward times and I am a bit disappointed. Why can't he be in the moment with me. He likes it hot, heavy and freaky but I don't feel like he "makes love" to me. I need that and it seems that he doesn't get it. I don't like it like a "freak" I need to be caressed and cherished and it seems boring to him. HELP!!
2007-01-16 14:09:50 · 4 answers · asked by Venus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Myself, intimacy repulses me
2007-01-16 16:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What’s he doing at his job, his line of work, his occupation? There's your answer. Is he the soul breadwinner? There's the pressure. Does he manage or have control over others at his work? There's more pressure. Is there a risk he could easily lose his job, his company, his position? There's pressure too. Are you guys overspending? Don’t have enough money? There’s pressure there. Anyway you slice it, dice it or dissect it, it's all about a man’s job, his power, his money (your families too) and his world at work and who he socializes with away from home. It's not all about you lady. You're his help meet (as described in the scriptures). Maybe you need to concentrate on looking into helping him get away from work by being creative and slowly lure him away with both understanding (compassion by listening to his ranting and raving about work), and working on some creative distractions such as either hinting at dating again (like going to the movies), such as when you were single, or dining out (without the kids), or simply cooking him a fine dinner (with something sweet he loves), and making him a hot bath and sending him to bed with pampering and a kiss. Once in bed, give him a massage and take care of "you know" when you're massaging him. Be submissive, all of us males like you to be subservient, show respect and be like a young girl in love. Show us those glossy eyes and tease us, just like you did when you had puppy love. That'll get his heart and libido in order right quick. I promise. And always tell him you’re proud of him and how fortunate you feel to be his lady. He might not respond outwardly, but inside, he’ll feel like a king, I damn well promise you!
2007-01-16 22:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by cpinkfloyd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe they want to be alone ..old ..and miserable someday
Do men always have to have what they want?
How about both of u preparing the meal together
How about showering together
How about rubbing each other together
How about 69 together
If he was real man he always wouldnt have to be lured away from work pressures and problems hed take charge and go for it!
Then "together" the two can become one
then he wont be alone and miserable afterall
2007-01-16 22:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get lots of answers here. What helped me understand men is the book "Proper care and feeding of husbands." It is by Dr. Laura. Friends that are married say it has helped them tremendously.
2007-01-16 22:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋