My mom would find out where I am and get me. If she goes against your rules take charge. You are the parent the provider. If she doesn't follow your rules enforce them by being ever present until she realizes you mean it but, warn her if she keeps doing it that you will do it and if she doesn't believe you follow through. Tough love really does work. Just don't be obnoxious about it.
2007-01-16 14:21:03
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answered by dnisey64 3
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I snuck out after my curfew all the time when I was growing up. I'm not sure why your daughter is doing it but I did it because my parents were TOO strict.
They literally would not let me do anything. They monitored my every movement, every telephone conversation, every book I read. I was a senior in high school and had to be home by 9 p.m. on the weekends!
I'm now 41 and have a 13 year old son. If I found out he had snuck out after curfew I would sit down with him and find out exactly why he felt the need. After that, I would take away something he truly loves (like Xbox 360) for a period of time. Most importantly, I would keep the lines of communication open, listen to what he tells me and read between the lines. Figuring out why something is happening is half the battle. Only then can you react to it correctly.
Good luck!
2007-01-16 14:21:25
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answered by Anonymous
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Find out how she got out and where she went. Beat her butt all the way back home. punish her and take away all the things that she likes the most outta her room and she could not have them back until she earned them back. Sit her down talk to her tell her what she did and that she disobeyed and she is not going anywhere but to school and back home and if she tries you you will embarass her in front of her friends with a butt whipping. Tell her and show her all of the bad things that are going on in this world could happen to her she may think it want but it could. Then throw in some of those what if sentences at her to make her really think, what if you went out and someone grabbed you I would not know where you were why cause you disobeyed me what if this and that. Watch how those thoguhts begin to run thru her mind and she begin to cry. See kids think they are smart and they do not think about all the bad things that could happen to them you know so you have to remind them and put them in the shoes of others that it happened to this will make them think before they react again. Once the talk and little yelling at her is over leave her in her room for her to think no TV no radio no nothing to distract her from thinking. It has to settle into her head and make her realize that she could be a victim just like others. She just can not be leaving the house like that. It will work kids these days need a reality check about what is going on in this world sometimes they forget. GOD BLESS!!
2007-01-16 14:35:55
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answered by Anonymous
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If she's into sneaking out, she will no matter what you try, short of installing a home security system that she can't turn off and nail her window shut. That was the only thing that kept one of my friends from sneaking out when we were young. The rest of us kept sneaking out. Honestly, we continued even after one friend and I were brought back home by the cops.
2007-01-16 15:41:01
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answered by just me 2
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I'd force her to take me to where she was going so that I could question everything that was going on and who she was going to see. Then, I'd try to prevent it from happening again. I never did sneak out when I was younger, because I knew the rules and the consequences of my actions. I didn't want to deal with my angry mother and psychotic sister. You have to set rules and boundaries if she crosses them and breaks the rules, she has to suffer with the consequences. Take something away from her that is a privilege to have or do. Money, computer, t.v, cell phone, hanging with friends, whatever it may be.
That's what I'd do...
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2007-01-16 14:21:19
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answered by Anonymous
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Take away everything she cherishes. Take her bedroom door off of the hinges and don't give it back until she *earns* it back. Cell phone, iPod, allowances, phone, tv, anything that she cherishes .. rip it out. She can gradually earn things back one at a time, when she learns to respect her parents boundries.
2007-01-16 14:26:54
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answered by restless_nymph 3
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The grounding of a lifetime no phone(cellphone too), friends, tv, computer, or leaving the house for anything but school for 6 months. And beat the living hell out of her if she does it again sometimes violence is the only solution(I'm being serious).
2007-01-16 14:19:36
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answered by Brad 3
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she will be in a position to come back to her senses in her own time, the biggest concern is that she is conscious of you're there for her. make confident that she is conscious of that you don't love him, clarify your causes, yet make confident that she continuously feels in that that is her determination (is reasonably, for sure). do not floor her/get rid of her cellular, and so on, because it would want to positioned a harmful barrier between you and her, and once this happens, he will be in a position to exert finished administration over her - she will haven't any-one else to exhibit to for help. concerning marriage/toddlers, the worst concern that you may do is push aside it out-of-hand. What you should do, is talk about that you want her to sense free, and having a newborn at 15 without funds in the back of her will bring about no longer something yet misery. positioned emphasis on the stress which will properly be positioned on a relationship even as there's no funds round, and, the somewhat real chance, that there might want to correctly be perpetual arguments ensuing in relationship breakdown. is this somewhat what she needs? If the relationship is that solid, that is going to very last till they are able to get married/have a relations. My own feeling, although, is that it gained't. Her boyfriend is for sure controlling, and for this reason he's offering marriage, that is yet another attitude to regulate, of "possession" in case you want. She desires to interrupt loose from this (duh!), i believe the in common words thanks to attempt that is for to have a even as to herself to judge issues - are there any distant (geographically, it truly is), relations contributors that she might want to stay with for a lengthy time period, to bathe her ideas? i believe that is the perfect concern for her, or maybe as she comes lower back from this spoil, she will have made up her ideas, and that i do believe that she will be in a position to be more suitable for this.
2016-10-15 08:19:02
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answered by ? 4
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Sounds only human they do this and every kid has done this .
U probably did this too when u were a teen.
Just pretend she didnt and let her have a later curfew.
2007-01-16 14:21:54
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answered by sunflare63 7
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you " aint gonna like this " act like i did not know she snuck out, find out who she was sneaking out with, find out who all her friends are, who their parents are, have a conversation with the parents whose kid she snuck out with, meet with this parent and then get all of us together, so we all know the rules........get to know the parents first....and then make sure to let my daughter know how much trouble she could get into.....for that attitude will get her in serious trouble and she will have more problems than just me to deal with
2007-01-16 14:22:22
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answered by phishsports 3
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