My mom and sister want to go see this play with my sister's friend and her mom. I honestly have no desire to see this play-whatsoever. However, my mom and sister have been commenting that I don't spend enough time with them. It is true that I have been going out with my friends more, but I honestly do not want to go. Either way, I look like an a$$ or b*itch for not going. Should I suck it up and make everyone miserable, or just skip so I'm not wasting $90 on a ticket?
2007-01-16 13:59:15 · 7 answers · asked by bridgetrocks86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am 20 years old. I went from hanging out with my family this summer to actually having friends that want to hang out with me, so I have been spending more time outside the house. However, my twin, who hangs out with his friends all the time, doesn't get in trouble or criticized if he wants to hang out with his friends. He is allowed, but I get judged because I want to spend more time with my friends. This is my first group of friends I have actually meant on my own and they treat me with respect.
2007-01-16 14:07:11 · update #1
If you go and make everyone else miserable then you aren't exactly sucking it up are you? Be gracious, polite and mature if you go.
A better option would be to tell your family that you would like to spend quality time with them in the near future, but the play does not appeal to you. Then follow up by inviting them to something that is of mutual interest real soon.
2007-01-16 14:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to make everyone have a miserable time if you go, then DON'T go. Let them enjoy the play without you.
Just remember, not sure how old you are, but as you get a little older you will look back and wish you had spent more time with your family. Friends come and go and family is forever! I learned this the hard way.
Good luck on your decission. If you do end up going, try to relax and just have a nice time with everyone. It would make it easier for yourself as well. It takes a lot more energy and effort to be a B*tch than to be nice. Remember that!
2007-01-16 14:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by MG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you would LOVE to spend time with them, but you just don't have the budget for a play that you aren't that interested in seeing. Then suggest an alternative activity for a future day. Set a day and a time so it is definite. Lunch next Thursday. And honor that.
You could even suggest that you meet your mom, sister, and their friends after the play somewhere for post-theater drinks/dessert (or before for dinner).
Mom may even offer to pay for you. But at least it doesn't look like you are skipping out on them, just the activity.
2007-01-16 14:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you gotta do things you don't want to do. You will be glad you did later in life. I blew my family off for friends alot and yes had abit more fun at the moment but now I feel weird just being around them at christmas and stuff ( I'm 25 now). Because I absoulty blew them off so much. In the long run having a succesful happy life means having a close family so yeah go see the concert and as much as it sucks smile and pretend you like it. Then your off the hook for a month or so.
PS the $90 bucks is nothing to your family to spend some time with you.
2007-01-16 14:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by jwbout 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you wouldent mind spending occational time with them if it were something you ALL would enjoy.
2007-01-16 14:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by Steve C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just go
2007-01-16 14:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
skip skip skip skip skip skip
2007-01-16 14:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋