she told me that I am taking her son, keep him with me, whiel her son goes to her place every week. I don't but rarely due to past experience and studies.
shell ask my husband to invite my mom in law to our house because culturally we have to invite them.
especially my mom in law always complain to me and to my husband that we don't want her to come to our place, I personally didn't forget her harm when I was in the end of my studies the last semstre where I could be failing my course and my husband losing alot of loney, I can't handle the failure, I've been through it before because my mom and uni iN Lebanon, were bad support to my studies, I was totally unable to think clearly an pshycologicly very depressed.
so now my last semsestre is close but I am afraid that the pressure form my mom in law side will make the study hard for me and hard to put my abilities all together and acheive better marks and pass.
2007-01-16 13:37:13 · 10 answers · asked by Summer O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do not invite her over right now wait till your done with classes.
Good luck
2007-01-16 13:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything you can do to get along with your mother-in-law will cause your husband to love you more than he already does. Never ever say anything bad about her to your husband. It will run your relationship into the ditch!! Can you call her once a week just to keep in touch and make her feel that you are wanting to be friendly with her? Can you invite her over for supper once a month? Can you send her a little gift when your husband goes to visit...just a small token to let her know you're thinking of her. Be sure she knows how important your education is because it will help you and your husband build a better life.
2007-01-16 22:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was difficult to follow you here. Do you mean invite her over for dinner, or to stay a lifetime? Set aside a little time from studying to prepare a meal once in a while and share it with family. Include your mother-in-law. Then go back to studying with a clearer mind, having had a break. In fact, that is the best excuse to give her when she starts her whining. "Well, mother-in-law, dinner was fun, but I must return to my studies now. Excuse me." Then leave the room and go to a secluded place and close the door.
Ignore the "you're keeping my son from me," business. We having a saying in the United States, "A daughter is a daughter all of her life, but a son is only a son until he takes a wife."
Tough for her, but you have him now. Don't worry about what she says.
2007-01-16 21:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame - she obviously loves her son - your husband a lot & feels jealouse of your relationship.
Have you discussed it with your husband? He probably feels bad being in the middle of the situation. But he could help both you & his Mum form a better relationship.
How about having a group of friends or family members there and inviting her as part of the group. It doesn't even have to be at your home - it could be a picnic or BBQ somewhere nice. Make it a special occasion.
There would be less pressure on both of you and make it easier for you both.
I had problems with my mother-in-law at first, but over the years as we got to know each other properly we became really close. Giving her grandchildren helped.
2007-01-16 21:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Maryrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother in-law to butt the hell out and mind her own business. It does not matter that "her son" is your husband, because she knows no boundaries and is not used to being told no. She is used to getting her own way and does not stop until she gets what she wants. She tries to make you feel bad for not being "part of our family", pulls the whole guilt trip of how you stole her son and all that crap. I say cut her out of your life.
2007-01-16 22:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your husband's mother, therefore his problem to handle. He needs to speak to her and explain to her that unless she can respect you as his wife, she will not be invited to your home again.
2007-01-16 21:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure invite her--don't ever let her know she bothers you--be nice and be the bigger person.
2007-01-16 21:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite her anywhere near you. You'll be happier for it.
2007-01-16 21:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study elsewhere.
2007-01-16 21:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um, personal
2007-01-16 21:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by MistyFlower 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋