So my best guy friend who I am in love with, found out I cut a few months ago. And he "cut" himself to get me to stop. I found out recently that he never did cut himself, that the blood was fake. I feel like I can't trust him anymore. I mean, I am glad that he wasn't hurt, but his girlfriend shouldn't have told my friends; my closest friend told me because she couldn't hold it from me anymore.
Should I approach him about this? What do I say?
2007-01-16 13:35:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say: "I need help. Can you help me stop cutting myself?"
2007-01-16 13:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U kno hun its not about him cutting himself. he did it to make u feel bad. who gives if he did it or not. the reason he attempted to fool u with such a thing is coz he is concerned about you cuttn. Maybe focus on the problem at hand instead on focusing on things that arent a priority. I had to stop coz of my friends doing the same thing but the drew real blood. U need to limit ur self to how often and for what reason and soon ull do it less and less that it wont happen at all and then u will never have to loose trust in friends that are trying to prove a point on how it hurts them when u bring that blade.
2007-01-16 21:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by emalie_rose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think it was sweet of him to do that if he thought that would get you to stop. I don't blame him for not wanting to actually cut himself. He's just not a cutter. I think he figured "The ends justified the means." He was dishonest about having cut himself, but I think he thought that if it got you to stop doing it, it would be worth it in the end. He obviously cares about you!
I can understand how you feel betrayed by his dishonesty though. I would suggest having a heart to heart with him about it. You don't have to be mad or confrontational, just sit down and have a calm discussion about why he lied to you. Good luck.
P.S. I'm sure you know this, but you really shouldn't be cutting yourself. I hope you have somebody you can talk to about that, like a counselor.
2007-01-16 21:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He obviously cares about you, and was trying to prove a point. Cutting is self destructive ... you need help. Maybe it was his way of reaching out to you, getting you to realize that cutting isn't the best way to deal with your issues. If you sit back and think about it, your friends "told" people about your cutting, because they're concerned about your well being. They want you to get help, one way or the other. You should be thanking them, rather than being pissed off at them. Isn't nice to have friends that care about you??
2007-01-16 21:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you use this term as if this is normal, whats wrong with you, you are trying to get attention, but you are getting a reputation for being a wierdo, and thats the furthest thing from being cool that i can possibly imagine, get rid of the black nail polish and throw your black hair dye away, and realize that you will hate yourself later for acting so stupid, so save yourself the humility, and quit cutting yourself and eating dogfood,or sticking metal out of your face or whatever you do, and dont be a follower, like those geeks that wear army boots, and parachute pants be you, and leave the cicus sideshow to those other clowns because its not cool,
2007-01-16 21:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have issues your boyfriend can't solve. Neither can you - alone. Talk to a therapist, a teacher, a counselor, or your parents/guardians. You need assistance with this cutting thing. Nothing else matters right now, especially a "boyfriend." Get help.
2007-01-16 21:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please quit worrying about what others are saying and doing and focus on yourself. You are not in a position to approach anyone at this point in your life. Of course he didn't cut himself! The vast majority of us don't. I'm sure he meant well, but you need professional help, not some faked cut. What do you say to him? How about, thanks for trying to help me but this is bigger than the both of us. Will you help me find a professional to talk to.........................
2007-01-16 21:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by summersailing 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the thing is that your close friend should have told u sooner. u got to give your guy friend props cause he cared enough about you to at least try something to get u to stop. Maybe he would love u if u loved yourself. No one that cuts themselve has any respect or love for themselve. maybe u should say thanks instead of not trusting him
2007-01-16 21:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was only trying to help you! I think it was a very bright thing he did but think about it as a kid your parents told you Santa was real, that the tooth fary was real! Sometimes the only way to get thru to some people is by lying! You need to get yourself some help if you haven't done so already!
2007-01-16 21:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by Maria C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't get this cause is you getting help for your problem cause one time may be to many and your last and if he had cut himself what good would that have done you ? you need help bad cause this is not a game, and i hope you realize that what you are doing with your life there is to many people who wish they could live and you have life and you are playing with it i"ll pray for you . i take life serious good luck
2007-01-16 21:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about stop cutting yourself, enuff pain in life without putting pain on yourself.
Love yourself and love your friend and pray to God.
Dont let the evil devil make u cut yourself ever again.
2007-01-16 21:41:23 · answer #11 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋