I'm pregnant with my 4th son. My sons are 13,12,12. I am due on Frebruary 1. My sons aren't so happy. They realized it's not even a month until I have my baby. My friend had a baby last month, and her kids are about the same age as mine, they were so excited! I look at them they are all smiling, and they were so excited to see there baby sister. Now I look at my sons, They arent very thrilled. They dont smile as much. One of my 12 year olds put alot of thought into the bad things that can happen with a baby brother. My 13 year old dosnt like big changes. it takes him a while to get used to big changes. He is also used to being the center of attention. If he dosn't get the attention he wants. He gets mad. My friend says every child acts different to there baby sibling. I dont know if thats the only thing bothering him. I hope my kids will like there baby brother. Well to bad because they are going to have to get used to it! Will they get better? I dont want them to hate the baby!
2007-01-16 13:32:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Any chance the baby's father is different from the boys' father? If that's the case it could be that they worry they'll feel left out.
Boys that age should be old enough to realize that a little baby won't have much impact on them. By the time the baby is even able to walk they'll all be teenagers.
Boys don't care a whole lot of about babies, so that could be part of it. Boys that age REALLY don't care about babies. Maybe all you can do is don't expect too much from them in terms of enthusiasm and don't ask them to help with the baby. Chances are once the baby starts doing cute things he'll grow on them, but even then, boys that age don't have a whole lot of interest in babies and toddlers.
If your sons seem to really have trouble adjusting or seem particularly miserable you may want to consider going as a family to a counselor.
Don't forget, too, there's even the chance they could be old enough to know you could be at some health risk during labor; so they could be afraid about that. They may also worry they'll "lose" you because the new baby will take up all your time. When it comes to "bad things" that can happen with a baby brother assure the boys that you won't let the baby get into their stuff when he's old enough to be walking. You may want to point out that a lot of the bad stuff they're thinking up can either be prevented or may not even be a reality.
2007-01-16 13:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what they're thinking.
No SLEEP
Crying BABY Diapers Babysitting
Admitting MOM had sex. That might be embarassing.
Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for you. But, they've been together for 12 years, and now it's all gonna change.
When they go to college, that child will only be 5 or 6!!!
Just understand how they might feel!!!
2007-01-16 21:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my step-son just turned 12 in dec and baby boy turned 1 on sunday.
and at first learning he wasnt going to get as much attention or be favored over etc... really set him off.
but now he loves him and cherishes every moment.
when i was pregnant. i let him help pick out the name and easied him to helping out. and i let him know that there will be an established pamper him time and an established pamper baby brother time.
and he is ok with it. it all takes time but they will come around slowly.
good luck to you and congratulations.
2007-01-16 21:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by vkewl182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most kids will come around in time especially when that sweet baby gets here
2007-01-16 21:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it will be hard but try to make it win win have dates with your boys separately so they now you love them good luck
2007-01-16 21:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by GrassRootsRabbits 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋