I broke up with this girl ive know since i was like 10, so 'making' freinds instead of just having known eachother for a long time is kinda weird to me. i just recently went out with someone else, from my school. we've known eachother for a while, kinda flirted a bit, and went to see a movie a little while ago. is there anything wrong with me having held her hand in the movie? i like her, and my freind has said she likes me too, and we do text a lot, but i think she mightve been a little wierded out or something. did i do something wrong? and how do i tell?______________________-no stupid smart-@** answers, please. just advice.
2007-01-16 13:32:33 · 15 answers · asked by xxdemuffinman420xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, how do i ask her for a second date?
one thing i forgot- we text eachother a TON, but dont really talk that much in school. how do you break the barrier?
2007-01-16 14:12:41 · update #1
nothing is wrong with that it's just girls act shy when boys they like are around. She'll get used to it and next thing you know ur be 23 and be getting married so relax.
2007-01-16 13:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well we all go through this stuff---even at my age, ..first dates are always awkward and clumsy, no matter how cool we think we are. Books have been written on this subject....just go out with the right attitude..and God, don't be grabby and pushy. Is there a rule that you have to hold hands on a first or second date. Girls don't know what to expect either---both of you have to let nature take its corse---be cool, enjoy the movie and just be yourself. Learn to be a listener as well as a talker, do interesting things on a date, show respect for your date---open doors and just be a nice guy...show her you're tops when it comes to being a fun date. Dress like a slob and treat her like you don't appreciate being with her--the date will not go very well. You didn't do anything wrong--you need to understand that if it didn't feel right, she would have let you know it. If you made a mistake and she won't go out again--YOU learned a valuable lesson---don't make the error again...change your ways a little. Now go out and have fun. To answer your question---the rule is just be nice.
2007-01-16 13:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did what felt right to you. Just call her up and tell her how weird you felt just holding her hand and ask how she felt about it. maybe she has a suggestion about what she'd like to do the next time you guys go out. The worst thing you can do is sit around second guessing what she might be thinking.Really, the only way you'll know how she feels or what she's thinking is to ask her. You can ask her as a joke and just be real casual about it.
2007-01-16 13:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by sandramunroe11550 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may have gotten too familiar too soon. Hind sight is 20/20, but next time go slower. Maybe just give her hand a squeeze and release it at some tender moment in the movie if you feel compelled to touch. Hand holding is very intimate.
2007-01-16 13:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No harm done. I'm sure she knows now, if she didn't before, that you like her. It's fine. Stop worrying about it. If she's "weirded out," it's because she's uncomfortable about something. If you feel she is uncomfortable about something, it's up to you to say, "Is anything bothering you?" Let her tell you why she's weirded out. Sometimes people get anxious about feelings they don't understand. In other words, she might like you as much as you like her, but she doesn't know how to express that, or it confuses her, or it makes her uncomfortable because they are new and different feelings for her, so she acts strangely, or doesn't know how to act. I wouldn't take it personally. But just be there for her if she needs to discuss it.
2007-01-16 13:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you did anything wrong. The best way to know if it was right for her or not at the time is by her reaction, did she hold your hand back or did she kinda act surprised and not too comfortable? If you really arn't sure then ask her.
2007-01-16 13:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Firienscatha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she goes "no", "wait" or "stop", that's a boundary.
Every single person varies wildly, so you can't really get a definitive answer. I've been on first dates that've had no physical contact whatsoever to dates where we ended up boning for an entire day and a half.
My only advice for you is to take baby steps, and whatever you do decide to do, take it slow and gently. Holding hands during the movie is cool. Did you kiss her good night?
2007-01-16 13:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should just ask her what she feels about it, and see what she says. This is the only way you can find out, so that next time, you know what weirds her out and what doesn't.
2007-01-16 13:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i surely would have been fine with it! normal a girl will like that kinda thing and id think that she minded much! try it again and see what happens. maybe next thing you know you'll be going out!
2007-01-16 13:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Allison 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont c dat ur weird or sth...i think dats nice ..or u can even kiss her hand ..cause this move will let her know for sure dat u like her ...and when u see da smile in her face u'll know dat she likes u too.LOl
2007-01-16 13:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by lillyshamshom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋