I am currently living with my Dad & Stepmom. My stepmom is making my life a living hell but I just moved back in with my dad after not talking to him for 8 years. I want a relationship with him but I don't want to live with her anymore. Money is very tight and living here is rent free. Should I move out and pay rent or stay here and put up with her.
2007-01-16 13:26:48 · 24 answers · asked by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk it out with your dad. Let him know that the way his wife treats you is unreasonable, and you feel like you shouldn't have to live the way you do. If living arrangments warrent you staying with him while you get on your feet, then you need to communicate with him. You may want to sit down with >>both<< of them and let them know how you feel. Explain your feelings, and express your unhappiness. Present options to change the way things are in the home. Comprimise, too ..that never hurts. Just don't give up everything you believe in. You never, by opening up, things just might turn around.
2007-01-16 13:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.....they are doing YOU a favor. You dont say how old you are, or how your stepmom is making life a "living hell" for you. If I were you, and I truly wanted a good relationship with my dad, I would try to find and appreciate the qualities your dad fell in love with, and focus on those. It wouldn't hurt to keep in mind that they don't have to let you live there rent free....if you are old enough to live on your own, and they are letting you live there rent free, I'm thinking you need to eat a bit of humble pie, suck up your hurt feelings, grow up a tiny bit, brush the chip off your shoulder, and be thankful.
2007-01-16 21:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want a relationship with your dad, then you should make an effort to get along with your stepmom - like it or not, she is the mate he chose. Having an adult relationship with a parent means you accept what they choose for their lives. For your dad's sake, and for the sake of your relationship with him, you should try to talk with your stepmom to see if there is some way you two can learn to live with each other. You'll all be better off if you can make peace. Good luck.
2007-01-16 21:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by M S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move out you i realize you say money is tight but maybe you can find a friend or someone you can move in with and pay a split the bills. I moved away from my parents when i was 16 and i feel it was the thing i ever did. If you decide to stay then maybe you can take your dad to the side and tell him how she makes you feel. Hopefully he can understand and try to make you feel better. Good luck!
2007-01-17 13:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by Song_bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to dad first. He may have a better suggestion. I am a step parent as well and both of my step children despise the air I breath, but I would hope somewhere out there step families could come together in harmony.
Don't just leave. Talk to your dad first and hopefully you can find a solution.
2007-01-16 21:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep time to GOOOOOO.As long as there are two women in the house it is total termoil two women can't stay in the same house.If you are old enough to move GET ON.Life is to short for so much drama and by the way your dad will probobly be stress free because he dosen't need to be put between the two of you.Get your own place and invite him over to just chat.Don't be rude to her but just be cosure..Good Luck
2007-01-16 22:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with your Dad. It's important to keep up your relationship with your Dad now.
Try to be diplomatic about your stepmon. I think you would find it much easier to relate to her from a distance, even if it's only a superficial relationship for your Dad's sake. You won't have the pressure of living with her.
You may be able to find someone to share the rent with you.
Good luck!
2007-01-16 21:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by Maryrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT NOW!!! Be an adult; that will show them! You're gonna be put out anyway when Dad has to choose between you and step-mom. Start looking for apt. while you have some dignity. You can have a relationship without being under your Dad's nose....
2007-01-16 21:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. Your peace of mind, and happiness is worth the expense of getting your own place. You can maintain a healthy relationship with your father without living with him. You should, however, tell him about your problems with his wife. He should know why you want to leave. Who knows? He may even help you a little bit financially. Good Luck.
2007-01-17 14:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by oneladyice1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and pay rent but keep in close contact with your father. Let him know that it's not because of him you have to leave, but because of her. Be sure to do a lot of activities that involve the two of you.
2007-01-16 21:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by The Pope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋