I swear,one of my friends is talkin about me behind my back! She is upset that I have a boyfriend,and that gets to her! She is sayin' I am blowin' my friends off,and I am not! I spend almost every second at school with them! I don't see what the proublem is! I am soooooooooooo ticked! What do I do to cope with this?
2007-01-16 13:21:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if she is sooooo mad about this then You should just quit talking to her.. that might cause even more problems.. but another hting, you could set down and talk to her be like Im sure if You had a boyfriend then You would always be with him but I wouldnt make abig deal about it.. either well for sure she is jealous and there is apossibility that she liked that guy u are now dating
2007-01-16 13:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to her. Tell her that if there is something bothering her to tell YOU and not everyone else, specially since it comes back to you. Tell her that if she has a problem she should tell you and not go around talking behind your back. I suggest you don't bring up the fact that she might be jealous of your relationship since it's most likely that she will deny it anyway. Make her see that you are not blowing everyone else off, but now you would like to spend a little more time to get to know your boyfriend but still enjoy hanging out with your friend.
Hope that helps... good luck!
2007-01-16 21:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshineluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem like this too back when I was in school. It sounds like she is jealous of you. Maybe she doesn't feel very good about herself so she is taking it out on you. Compliment her or something, to make her feel better about herself. Next time you see her say something like "You look so pretty today! I love your shoes!" Also make sure you don't talk yourself up too much around her, be modest, play yourself down and see if that helps. If it doesn't help, maybe she is just an abusive person and you should consider not having her as a friend anymore if she keeps being mean to you.
2007-01-16 21:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way it looks, your friend envy you... she must be so jealous that she do such thing as talkin behind your back! if youre really sure that she's the one spreading the rumors, then you must act quickly and talk to her before it become a big deal! and you should have ask yourself now... is she really your friend? and next time, choose your friends wisely... dont forget the saying that goes "tell me who your friends are and i'll tell you who you are"... your friends is your reflection... so better choose wisely ^.~
2007-01-16 21:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to grow up. You have a boyfriend and you'd rather hang out with him. What's wrong with that???? Nothing! They're just jealous. Don't even sweat it. If they were real friends, they'd be happy for you. F em.
2007-01-16 21:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she feels you are doing her wrong in some way she needs to come talk to you about instead of everyone else, otherwise the issue will never get resolved. Then go from there on resolving the issue.
2007-01-16 21:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels like you call your boyfriend more than you call her. Just try calling her more and giving her a little more attention. She'll stop going behind your back if you give her some attention.
2007-01-16 21:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is jeoulos but dont let her get to you!! Thats what she's wanting you to feel bad...so dont...if she keeps it up just ignore her for a little while..until she ask whats wrong and then tell her that your not ignoring her but that she's being selfish wanting all of you and your time to herself.
2007-01-16 21:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by cantthinkofnothin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend then you can call her up right now and ask her point blank why she is talking about you. In fact, go to her house so she can't hang up on you. You need to catch her when she can't think about her answer, first. She'll say she didn't do it so gather your facts, first.
2007-01-16 21:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like drama. Uh..coping mechanisms..hmm.. you could take up smoking/drinking? Those are..healthy..um..well, there're alternatives. Why not just confront her on it if you believe that she is? Coping won't solve anything, dialogue solves everything.
2007-01-16 21:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋