is this normal?

Question

Im 14 and already want to start a family of my own. My parents have been in an on and off relationship for the last 5 years. is this normal?

is it normal for a kid my age to want to start a family of my own? and no not just for the sex.

Answer 1

Not normal...How do you plan on supporting this family????

Answer 2

I can say that I've never heard of something like that before, but it all depends, too. If your parents have had a somewhat rocky relationship then it is normal to want a family of your own to create some stability. You may feel more comfortable to have your own family and be in a relationship that maybe your parents didn't have. That is normal. It's also normal to feel that way if you had siblings that you weren't close to or are an only child. Whatever the case, very seldom does anyone want a family. So if you feel you can handle the challenge so I don't see a reason why you should. Just keep in mind the responsibilities of fatherhood and becoming a devoted husband by being able to protect and provide for your family. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are trying to replace your disfunctional family with one you think will love you and be there no matter what. You would be better off getting your education and going to college before starting a family. It isnt as easy as it looks and that is coming from an adult. At your age you would have no way to support a family, you would have to live on welfare and that doesnt last forever. Go to school, go to college, live some of your life before bringing someone else into this world into another disfunctional family. Having a child at your age is not a good idea. They are not all fun and games and dress up. They are sleepless nights and days, sickness, crying, whining, they want you all the time even when you dont feel you can give them anymore. They arent toys. Grow up!!! Go stay a week with a teen mother and see exactly what you'd be in for.

Answer 4

you are probably just looking for a stable relationship in your life, seeing as your parents are on and off. i think it is normal to want that close family, whether you are the child or the parent, but i dont think that means it is the right thing for you to do at this point in your life. think seriously about other things that you may want to accomplishin your life BEFORE you have a family of your own. and the more you feel comfortable with yourself, the better and more stable relationship you will likely have in the future! Bottom line, figure your own stuff out before you start a new family!

Answer 5

Yes it is... but not too good of an idea... if you want whats best for your family maybe you should wait... so when you do decide to have a family and a baby you'll be able to afford to get the baby what it needs and your wife so you do not have to count on anyone to help you... I know about this because I have aa friend who had a baby at 13 and her mom and dad are not ther as much and shes struggling hard... and she cant do anyhting because shes not even old enough yet to get a job. she only has her boyfriend and hes young too, so his parents help out.

Answer 6

It is understandable for you to feel this way, as many people, especially if they come from a certain background, may feel they can't wait to settle down. Perhaps you feel you could create a more stable family for yourself than the one you are currently living with. However, the simple fact is you can't possibly be ready at this time. The responsibilities of living on your own, not to mention caring for a family, are HUGE. Please, finish your education so you can get a good job that will enable you to care for a family properly. THEN you can start looking for the right person to settle down with. Adulthood isn't all it's cracked up to be, please, slow down and enjoy your childhood while you can. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 7

No not normal - think you are confusing longing for a family and desiring to make a family.
Are not even old enough for all the responsibility financially let alone mentally.

You have seen no stability within your own parental examples and therefore think you can do a better job at it - all!

Enjoy your life - you have lots of things to enjoy - yet - outside of birthing your own family at this time!

Answer 8

its normal for anyone from an unstable background to want to be in a new, stable environment they can feel safe in. trust me, if you were to start a family any time in the next ten years, chances are that it would end in the same way your parents relationships did. the hardest lesson to learn, even when you get older, is that life is long, and you must be patient. dont force anything... just let things happen. when the time is right, things will fall into place!

Answer 9

This is not normal for you to want to start a family physically, I think you are trying to compensate for your family relationship, with a fantasy family of your own.

Answer 10

Sounds normal to me, why wouldn't you want an intact (and functional) family? To get ready for this eventuality (sure, you can have it!), have a few sessions with a school counselor or therapist (ask how to connect with one), and learn how to heal from the upheavals you've been experiencing. You'll also learn how to understand yourself and your drives (not just for sex, but to provide, protect, guide, bond, etc.) and how to manage yourself as you mature and get through school (you will get through school, yes?). If you can prevent yourself from marrying before you're out of school you'll be able to have a last chance at childhood (well, older childhood, somewhat free of adult responsibilities). This is an important period for you. When we miss our childhood because of trauma or responsibilities, it can bring so much discomfort later. Best to get it while you can, when it's naturally occurring.
Best wishes for your healing and a bright future. Don't despair.

Answer 11

I think this is normal because many teens and including me (I'm 13 years old)would like to start a family but i am way too young to handle things like where to live, how to feed the new family and all that parents stuff. But this is your chose.I recommend you not but hey!