My girlfriend is quite jealous of my bestfriend, also a girl, and this friday is my bestfriends birthday party. Her party is a limo ride to a restaraunt a ways away so not many people are invited. She and my girlfriend used to be friends, not the closest but they did hangout during cross country and such. There is absolutely nothing between me and my friend, she is like a sister to me. So i have struggled with telling my girlfriend about the party because i know she is very jealous of her and would probably become upset/ angry/sad and so forth. So this afternoon i told her and i could tell it was bothering her and nothing i could do made her happy at all. She is very upset but has told me repeatedly to "go and have fun." I have assured her that if i go, i will not be having fun knowing she is at home and upset with me. I really dont know what to do right now, i feel very torn and quite conflicted.... Help please???
2007-01-16 12:39:52 · 18 answers · asked by black belt fisch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think tou should try to talk to her and tell her that you dont like your friend as a girl friend you only like her as a sister and try to make her understand how you really feel about her,and all so try to spend more time with her not with your friend.I mean you can spend time with your friend but not too much time cause you know if us girl see our boyfrind hang out with another girl we think ya boys are cheeting on us so we get jeaslous alot and all that you feel me.My advice from me to you is to take care of your girl friend and dont let no body get between you and your girl friend.Okay i have to go now if you want any advice from me next time call me at 301-322-5957 okay okay bye.
2007-01-16 13:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by kisshugcelebrity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have been very honest and considerate of your girlfriend but it does'nt sound like she is doing the same for you.Your girlfriend should not make you feel guilty because you have a close friend that happens to be female.If your girlfriend can't get over her own jelousy then you don't need to be with her because there will alway's be some kind of conflict and it will never work.Why can't you bring your girlfiend along for the party(it is strange for you not to bring her with).Although your girlfriend should trust you to go anyway if she does'nt you definately don't belong with her because if you don't have trust then you don't have a relationship plain and simple.Go and have a good time.
2007-01-16 12:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a girl you want to spend a significant amount of your life with then stay home.
But I don't get why you can't just meet all those people at your best friend's party by taking another vehicle there.
If this girl is truly your 'best' friend than she will understand how important your relationship is to you. If she really doesn't want your girlfriend there then I would guess that even though you see her as 'a sister' she may not see you as 'a brother'.
2007-01-16 12:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way she could join you? Or maybe skip the limo and take her with you in a separate ride?
But you also have a right to spend time with friends without her. I would go and just check in with her (once or twice max) so she knows that you are thinking of her. It can be a trust building situation.
2007-01-16 12:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by DEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well why can't you just bring your girlfriend along to the party. I'm sure by bring her along can prove to your girlfriend that she is the one that is important to you. And if your friend is really your BEST friend then i'm sure it won't be a problem of having your girlfriend there because as a best friend she should understand. If you can't bring her then going to the party or not is up to you. THis is when you will have to ask yourself who's more important to you. then make your choice
2007-01-16 12:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the party and enjoy yourself. Good friends are hard to find.
Your girlfriend is insecure. Her behavior will slowly but surely erode your relationship.
I don't know any way to resolve the feelings she has for your best friend. But you cannot stop doing things you enjoy just to make her happy because you'll wind up making your best friend unhappy which will cause you to be unhappy.
2007-01-16 12:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i think you should do is ask your friend can your girlfriend come if not try to explain to your girlfriend that she is just a friend if she does not listen just tell her if she cant understand then it cent work out and if she really loves you she would not want to break up and she will let you go to the party have fun and not be mad.
2007-01-16 12:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mz. G33k! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard but get your priorities in line, decide which was is more important or decide if u'd rather give one more attention or keep it 50/50. And if ur gf gets jealous and ur friend doesnt just do things with your gf and ur friend should understand.
2007-01-16 12:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Agent Buckwald! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your girlfriend and best friend why are they having a grudge on each other. Ask her why she's jealous. Because you gf can be as good as your bf.
2007-01-16 12:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im surprised your bestfriend didnt even consider inviting your gf....but hey if your gf is telling you to go then go
Good Luck
2007-01-16 12:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Twiddle D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋