My diabetic father, who passed away two days ago was suffering from stroke. Recently he was having fits and ended up with his left leg and arm fully paralized, not able to talk and hallucinating. While in hospital, seeing that he was deteriorating by the minute, seeing no response and his sugar level going up even though they gave him insulin, I begged the doctor to remove the plug and not let him suffer any more. 15 minutes later he passed away. Do you think I did right?
2007-01-16 12:39:10 · 25 answers · asked by Curious. 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
You made a very kind and generous decision. Believe me when I tell you that. He is released from his physical pain. Please don't have any regrets - what you did was very courageous. My deepest sympathy for your loss.
2007-01-16 12:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Isabel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes sweetie you did the right thing.Sorry about your father. My mother also passed away from cancer recently and I also wanted for her not to suffer any more. It is very difficult to see someone you love suffer. She was in pain all the time even when taking lots of morphine. She struggled for at least a week before going into a coma and then two days later after that she passed away. I know for some people this does not sound right but I was relieved in a way that she was not going to suffer anymore. So do not worry you did the best thing. God Bless You.
2007-01-19 03:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by superstar68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, based on what you've stated, yes. However nobody can truly say without having known what kind of guy your dad was - we're guessing he's the type of guy who would hope the machine would get switched off in such a scenario. It's a difficult thing to have to do, but it is an act of good and not of evil, regardless of whether or not you knew what he would have wanted you to do. If you believe in heaven, I'm sure he'll thank you for sparing him suffering and indignity when you meet again up there.
2007-01-16 12:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't worry about this, weather u have made a right decision or not, u have made ur decision. So believe in yourself.Whatever u have done that moment, i think your dad would have respected u because u have done what u thought was best for him and that is the most important. Even if he is still alive this moment, he is bound to be suffering still. So put it this way, he would have thanked you, and he is in heaven now having a much better live. So try and be happy and don't worry.
Kind regards to your family and u!! Take care
2007-01-16 14:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Boffin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't answer that... you didn't say that the doctor complied with your wishes. It is insinuated in the last three sentences but I don't know about these things with so little information. You loved your dad as any child does, he was in pain and your love hurt for him. The man is gone and so is his pain. Does it matter if you did right or not? Was he going to die anyways? He is at peace and you live on, the pain is in your heart now. After losing my own father in much the same fashion (he died a slow death as well, and in pain) I can say that your pain will dissolve into a mild pain that all men's children can handle. Your love is in the right place....I would say that is good enough for anyone. Those who can not see that? You don't want to know them anyways.
God bless and take care.
2007-01-16 13:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by the old dog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible information! Cotto Sr. is purely fifty seven years previous. My father is sixty 4 and that i'm 29! i'm so a great deal bowled over and extremely stated for Miguel Cotto and his family members. Cotto is unquestionably one of those large humble guy who's the genuine satisfaction and champion of Puerto Rico. His father raised a large son! God bless his soul and that i grant my condolence and prayers to the Cotto family members.
2016-10-31 07:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by gripp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No parent would want their child to see them this way. It was an extremely unselfish thing that you did, most people cling on even knowing that there is no hope but being too afraid to let go. I cant begin to imagine the emotions that you were going through as you made this decision but i only hope that i ever have to face something like this that i can do so with the strength that you have shown. You have my deepest sympathy for your loss and also my greatest respect for the selfless choice you made. xx
2007-01-16 16:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by sundancer332003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you had not been there,ask yourself what would have happened
.Feel no guilt.Your father`s passing was inevitable....Some nurse
or doctor would have been making the same decision.
He`s gone now,not forgotten,cherish the good times in memory
,and while you live he also lives.From a staunch atheist.Please
learn to live with your loss,everybody suffers the same some time.
Sorry I can`t be of any more benefit to you.Bereavement is bad!
2007-01-16 13:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for your loss.....I think that you did the right thing....if you hadnt of then he may be suffering now and I dont think that any of us want to see out loved ones suffer.
The grief is now making you question yourself and that is perfectly natural...its the relisation that your not going to see him again in this land....but he will always be with you, you did do the right thing hon and in time you will feel better about your decision.
Take care and best wishes xx
2007-01-17 05:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think so, If it was me that was in the same position as your Dad I would want someone to have the strength to end my suffering. At the end of the day you wanted it to end for your dad, Dont let someone on here try to tell you that you did the wrong thing. They were not in your positon. Youve got courage.
2007-01-16 12:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by evoevsy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By "removing the plug" I gather that he was on a ventilator (machine that breathes for you)? Did he ever discuss with you what he wanted done in the event that something like this happened to him?
You knew your father best. Whether he would have wanted to have everything done for him or not. Whether he have would wanted to continue who knows how long unable to communicate, unable to care for himself, unable to move, and be a burden on those he loved with no chance of recovering. Whether he would have wanted to be kept alive with a ventilator, probably a feeding tube for feedings every 4 hours or even continuous feeding, intravenous fluids, a continuous catheter to drain off his urine, continuous care to take care of the rest of his bodily functions and to reposition him every couple of hours to prevent bed sores or other infections. Another words alive, but not really living. If your father would have wanted none of that, but preferred just to "die with dignity" then you did the right thing. The fact that he died 15 minutes after taking him off life support should reassure you that he couldn't have existed on his own. It is hard enough having a parent die, it is horrible to have to watch them die .
It is a terrible burden when a child has to make a decision whether to keep a parent alive or let them die. My mother has a living will and I am the executor of that will. I know her wishes which makes it a smidgen easier, but I hope that I NEVER have to carry out her wishes.
2007-01-16 13:46:50 · answer #11 · answered by Country Hick 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋