ok so here is the deal. my boyfriend is so over protective. he says he does it because he loves me to much. well when ever i go and talk to one of my guy friends that have a locker right next to me and he comes up and need to know everything i am talking about and if the guy asked how was my day, my boyfriend takes me away and starts making sure that i dont talk to any more boys that day except for him. he will call me 5 times that day. just to see if i made it home allright, or if i talk to any other boys lately, or to just say that he loves me so much that he would do anything for me. is he jealous because other guys are talking to me? or is he just really really overprotective? help!!!!
2007-01-16 12:30:43 · 9 answers · asked by Shelby S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs reassurance that you love him too - tell him that he is your boyfriend for a reason but be honnest and tell him you also need your space. Try not to say "I need space" as if you are breaking up with him though! The key is to resassure him that you want to be together and you are not interested in other guys. If he is a good guy he should understand and tone down on the clinginess... if not - then dont bother with him
2007-01-16 12:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by AM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, young love. There is nothing more intense and pure than that first love, and that's exactly what this sounds like. Yes, he loves you. Fiercely. But there are qualities that are needed to temper that love, like wisdom and trust that come with age and experience. It does temper the fire of that first passion, but it lasts much longer and in the long run the relationship will be stronger and better. Ironic, isn't it? Don't hesitate to address his concerns with him, but don't be confrontational, be supportive. He probably would do anything for you. Think about that for a second. Flattering, but scary, huh? He doesn't mean to shoulder you with a burden by saying this. It's just an attempt to make it clear to you how important you are to him and that you have his heart. Handle with care. All that he has and all that he is he is giving to you. The more one values something or someone, the scarier the thought of being without that someone. You may yet know a stronger and better love in your lifetime, but you will never know a purer one. Good luck.
2007-01-16 20:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really insecure. Overprotective isn't the right word; this isn't the dark ages, there's not much to protect you from. If you love him, be sure that he knows. And tell him it makes you feel like he doesn't trust you when he acts like that. If he doesn't cut it out, or at least do it less, then you have a problem, cuz guys like that can get crazy. I know it for a fact. It's one thing to get jealous, it's impossible to avoid when you care about somebody. But he should trust you to be true, or else what is your relationship founded on?
2007-01-16 20:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mary K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is both, which isnt a good thing. I took a class once and this is the first stage of an abusive relationship. Either talk to him or break it off. It could get scary if you dont. Im sorry
2007-01-16 20:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, he is obsessed and that is not healthy, get out while you can. He is telling you in so many ways that he doesnt trust you at all and he is also trying to be controlling of you.. Been there done that and aint doing it again. Sometimes its sweet, but for the most part is dangerous and scary. When my ex done that to me, I thought it was sweet, but then it just got worse, and eventually he started hitting me and the next thing you know I was in intensive care thanks to him. Get out while you can
2007-01-16 20:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a guy like that you don't need cause if that is your boy friend now and he is acting like that imagine what it will be like when your married to this fool. Get out of it now while you can.. if he cant trust you There is no need to be with you...
2007-01-16 20:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by morena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you are explaining he sounds like hes possessive.. Have you done anything that may have caused him to be this way? Or has he always been this way? Be careful... He could also be insecure.... you need to ask him why his actions are displaying controlling and possessiveness.
2007-01-16 20:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a control freak to me. get rid of him pronto! he needs to get a grip on himself. if he dont trust you, then he dont love you. make him prove it by changing his spots girl!
2007-01-16 20:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by ilfo59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both
2007-01-16 20:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋