My son hates his highschool. He says that everyone is differnt from him and he cant be himself. He is very outgoing, good looking and not shy at all but he refuses to interact with the kids. This is the only school he has a chance to go to we cannot afford a private school and he cant accept the fact that this is where he has to be. Every day he eats lunch outside by himself. He says he has no friends and that he is not going if we dont take him out of his school. He says he doesnt care if he gets in trouble for not going to school he says that he cant take being by himself for the next 2 years. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!
2007-01-16 12:17:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Look into "independent study" for him. The "Highschool expierence" isn't for every kid. Not all kids enjoy that type of atmosphere. I know now that it wasn't for my daughter which is the reason she wound up flunking out of highschool her Sr. year. Left on her own to study independently she was able to get her GED within two months and enroll into college BEFORE those who graduated prior to her. She has maintained a 4.0 grade average the past two years. Had I known then what I know now I would have had her on indpendent studies, she would have been able to graduate sooner, enter college and probably be out by now with her degree.
2007-01-16 20:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I faced a similar problem throughout my high school years.
Is your son mature for his age?
I was always more mature than my peers. When they would act up in class and get themselves into trouble, I'd become annoyed and wouldn't talk much to anyone. I found it difficult to befriend the immature individuals, sadly most everyone in my graduating class behaved this way.
The other students had their own opinions about me but they could never figure out the real me because I always kept quiet.
Your son needs friends, even if they don't go to his school.
He needs to know that regardless of how "different" he is, there will always be someone out there who shares his same interests.
I had a close group of friends outside of school and it got me through. I was not the happiest but I could've been much more miserable.
Also, hobbies and interests help too.
He may appreciate spending time with his family, as well. Let him know you care and are there for him through this hard time.
If all else fails, internet school is increasing in popularity. It may be something to look into if this continues.
2007-01-16 20:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem.
I couldn't stand the other kids and they couldn't stand me. They acted stupid, none of them were anything like me, I refused to be mean to people to fit in.
I was completely alone, and it was the worst thing ever. People also knew I had been jumped alot in middle school, so I was even more of an outcast.
Luckily for me, I found ways to work ahead and graduated at 16. I'd get him counseling (if he agrees and wants it), and search for a way to get him out.
Some people just aren't social and there is NOTHING wrong with not being social. Alot of people are wonderfully happy not being social. You just don't know about them because they don't broadcast it lol.
2007-01-16 22:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
beware of the doctors prescribing meds for your son,and teachers and counselors recommending test him for psychiatric needs. i dont be leave in the pills and theories. meds just cause other more serious problems.
find the root cause with you and him talking. then fix the problem.
maybe switch public schools , home school is an option,
?s to find out-why no friends-different how?-its ok to be alone!
also remind him , the more kids no about you and what bothers you , the more they will exploit that and like police use it against you. be your self respect yourself and be happy and others will follow. like politicians they say only what people want to hear, then people follow.
good luck
2007-01-16 20:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by hazegrey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your son needs some counseling.. fast.
he has become anti social and is alienating himself from the other kids in the school.
if this is not the problem perhaps he is having problems that he is not telling you about. is he being bothered by a bully? or something of that sort.
what ever the problem you had better investigate it fast and find out what is wrong!!!
2007-01-16 20:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋