why cant i ever find love?

Question

every time i date i always fail why ?i ask myself i am nice to them kind and yet i fail the question i ask is am i destined to be alone for life?

Answer 1

I often find myself asking the same thing. Sometimes we think we find love and in fact... we do not. The problem is simple....two people (two personalities) two unpredictable futures, and too many influences on the two people.

You might think you find love when in fact you only found LUST. There is a definate difference between the two and until you discover that, you will never truely be in love.

The problem I run into is when I come down from my high on the lust and I get to know the person long enough to know when I feel the emotion of love in my heart of hearts, I find it necessary to share that emotion with them and often I am the first to express my feelings for her. She and more than likely (the women you have dated) hasn't reached that level of feeling for me (and you) at the time and wants to back off, because she thinks you are clingy, and in need of a (love in your life). She is just not ready for love when you are.

Women are wonderful creatures. But they are and always will be, seekers of what they can not have. From the days of Adam and Eve, when she took the forbidden fruit. She (woman, was cursed and) will always seek what she can not have. Once she gets it... she no longer wants it.

So what I realized is that no matter how much love I feel for my woman..... she can never and I mean, never think for one minute that I love her more than she loves me. I told myself that I would not fall into the same trap again and just hold back my emotions. But based on the type of personality I have, my desire to let the woman I love know how strongly I feel for her over rides my commitment to myself to hold it in.

Just recently 9 months into a relationship, with a woman that was everything I wanted a woman to be. 9 months into it and after a 2 hour love making session, I screwed up and said "I love you". But I didn't just say I love you. I said and I quote "Ohh my God... I love you! I can't hold it in any longer, from the bottom of my toes, to the very tips of my finger tips, I love you. You are everything I imagined a woman should be like." I wake up and think about you. I am at work and I think about you. She interrupted me when I was going off and said... "What?" What did you say? I said, I am in love with you and I didn't want it to happen. I just can't help it! I had to let you know! Of course she said it back... but a week later... she said, we need to just be friends. This is going to fast! Just before that she would send texts saying things like "roses are red, violets are blue if you only knew how I felt about you". I know she loved me and knows that I have a heart like no one she's ever met, but she was just not ready for that deep of a relationship. So I.... no one else.... but me... I screwed up a really good thing by my own thoughts of letting her know how I felt.

I did this because what I really wanted, was to hear her say it, to me! I wanted her to feel how I would feel, if she were to say it to me. I wanted her to know how it feels to have someone completely and ultimately love her. That... that made me feel complete at the time. But what it did was push her away.

Women, like the chase. When there is no longer a chase... they loose interest. It's part of the curse.

We are a breed of man, who seek companionship in order to feel complete. We are this breed of man because of the way we were raised. Your mother, worked all the time. She was not home for you as much as you needed as a child and therefore you seek the love of a woman. Your search for this love, is so strong that you will often tell yourself and believe that you in fact are in love with a woman, when actually you are not.

So my friend... I say to you... in your time of need....
LOVE THYSELF AND LOVE SHALL FIND THE!

Take care of yourself in a way that makes you seem to glow with happiness. Your magnetic smile and your passion for life, will attract the most beautiful women in the world. As difficult as it is... you must realize that the love of a husband and wife, is far different from a mother and son.

Answer 2

Well....there are several things to consider.
1. How old are you? If you are a teenager then my response is...wait it will happen.
2. Always review yourself for things you can improve and work on yourself. Do these women/men tell you what doesn't work for them? If so, consider what they want and ask yourself if it is something that you want to change about yourself (say wt, or hair style, or frequency of bathing!)
3. After your self review, then look at the women/men you are attracted to. Are they all similar types? Maybe you need to look at different types of people to date. I have seen many women who always dated the ''bad boys'' fall madly in love when they dated the ''good boy'' for the first time. We as humans tend to repeat patterns. So always break a pattern if you want a change in your life.
After all: The definition of insanity is "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result''.

Good luck! Also make sure you find things that make you a balanced happy person on your own.

Answer 3

the answer to this question is relatively fairly common. If the sentiments are not mutual, then pass on. there isn't something worse the waiting on somebody to return love. in no way make somebody a concern once you're purely seen as an selection. actually, you won't be able to be his buddy(a minimum of not interior the genuine experience of the be conscious, considering which you won't be able to get previous your thoughts you have for him) and as time progresses it is going to alter into harder so which you will hear at his thoughts on the subject of love, fantastically if it is not on the subject of you and him. finally which will grow to be resentment and it will purely coach it fairly is face in another variety. some bridges are not meant to be crossed. You 2 could be better off as acquaintances. I wouldnt' rigidity the subject of taking it to the subsequent point(till the sensation is mutual, purely be there for him and perhaps, purely possibly he will come around and start to view you interior the comparable way you regard him. on the turn element, I say tell him the way you experience. You in no way be attentive to the way it ought to finally end up. solid luck!!

Answer 4

poor you
listen you are just going through a rough patch right now
nobody is destined to be alone
maybe its not the right one or time
give it time, be patient, stick with friends
just wait, she will come and turn your life around in the best way

Answer 5

Well...in life we have to go through a few WRONG people before we get to the right one. How would you be able to appreaciate a good relationship if you havent had some bad ones. Dont look for love......LOVE will find you.

Answer 6

It happens in a way that you never expect. So don't worry and just let time passes. Try to keep in contact with few girls at the same time but don't go in depth or don't dream about them. When you have few girls around you will have more confident and at the same time new girls appear around !

Answer 7

You are not destined to be alone!

You are destined to date more! and find the one!

Answer 8

love comes when you're not looking for it, so enjoy the dating and just have fun with it, it'll hit u one day, but it's always a surprise it could be a stranger, someone you met before, or someone you been knowing for years already

Answer 9

'cause love is a dream or a fantasy that we create to run away from facing our true selves and true lives

Answer 10

Stop looking for it,and then it will come for you...