Is it wrong to date a guy 11 years younger than you?

Question

I am 37 years old and recently met this guy who is 26. We get along very well and are physically and mentally attracted to each other. He is very mature for his age and I am a little immature (LOL) so we meet in the middle. He wants to start going out with me but I am hesitant because of the age difference. Should I go out with him?

Answer 1

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, as long as you both feel comfortable with it! Look at how many women date men who are that much older or more. I think that at that age, age doesn't matter as much anymore, both of you probably have careers and responsibilities so the "gap" doesn't seem so big.

Answer 2

YES you should go out with him. There's nothing wrong with dating a man younger than you. My mom remarried and her husband is 10 years younger than her and she's quite happy. I think once a woman is past a certain age, age isn't really an issue. Now, 26 and 15 is a differen story, but you're 37....go for it. Don't get hung up on the number!

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with going out with him, but it is important to understand the different places you are in your lives. It is not the number of years that is an issue. The difference between someone who is 50 vs. someone who is 40 is less than then the ages are 10 and 20.

You just need to keep this in mind since what he is looking for might be very different than what you are looking for. There is nothing wrong with spending some time with him and find out who he is.

Answer 4

It's not wrong if you're both adults and you love each other. It's noone else's business really. If you get along well and you feel like you two are on the same page then it's fine. Other people may look at you two and think it's weird but don't worry about them. I know couples who have huge age gaps like 7-15 years but they get along fine. In fact they get along better than a lot of couples I know who are the same age. If you feel it's right then go for it. Life is too short.

Answer 5

The way our society looks at age differences in relationships & dating is pathetic. It's taboo for a 19-year-old to go out with a 17-year-old but the moment everyone hits 18, it's a free-for-all. I hear about people dating with that kind of age difference all the time. With how many relationships fail these days, and how many marriages divorce, if you get along fine with him then I say go for it and to hell with what anyone may think.

Answer 6

Age is largely inappropriate...till someone needs to make it so. Age ameliorations develop right into a lot less and a lot less significant as we become older. If he were 21 and she or he were 10, no way. 29 and 18 is certianly getting proper and 40 9 and 29 would not reason absolutely everyone to augment an eyebrow. What it somewhat comes right down to, assuming we are no longer dealing with plausible criminal themes, is the persons in touch will make their own judgements. At 18 and 29 both activities are "of age" and can make their own judgements.

Answer 7

First of all, you answered one of my questions--do you have the maturity level....sounds like you do at this time. I would say you do exactly what your heart and guts say to do. ALWAYS do what YOU feel is best for you. Now a nice easy dinner date would not be committal or intimidating---nothing wrong with starting this out and getting comfortable FIRST. If he moves too fast---slow him down. If you find that being at ease or really finding it pleasurable is the result, maybe it is alright for you two to be together. I caution you that young unsettled people often want to expand their horizons as they get older---you did at his age---rememmber??? So accept that he and you might grow apart as time goes on. This is true of you also--as you age, you might change too. That's a fact. So agree to light dating and keep it on a nice easy emotional level---of course the fact remains that once you start, it will be difficult to split if the time comes. Be true to yourself, not to his wishes--don't fall for totally unreasonable talk or promises. Seize the day and have some fun, but keep it light and make sure you set the ground rules.....be realistic. Good luck and have a great life

Answer 8

You're both adults, so go for it. Many couples have a large age difference between them, but it doesn't hinder their ability to get along and love each other. My aunt married a guy who's older than her mother, and they have had nothing but happiness throughout their entire marriage. The age thing will become less important as the relationship grows.

Answer 9

If it is ''wrong'' why have men been dating younger women for ages?? Look at online ads from Men who are 55 looking for a date with women 18-40.

GO FOR IT. The issues of age may surface time to time but you will deal with it as they do. He has to be aware of the shorter time frame of your life for bearing children if you both want them. That is, he can't wait 20 years to start having them with you.
I have found in dating much older men from time to time that the difference mainly shows up in the decade of when the first partner reaches 65ish. Then one partner is ready to retire from work and active life, but the one who is 15 or 20 years younger still has 20 more years to work! That is hard.

Good luck!

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong at all with going out with or even marrying someone 11 years younger than you at your ages...now if you were 26 and he was 15 yeah there might be a problem but not at your ages now...go on have fun enjoy yourselves...